My friends spouse won't admit he cheated, but his friend told her!

@saralee1 (1983)
United States
February 7, 2007 1:32am CST
My best friend is in a very difficult situation right now! She's been my friend since High School, and I just found out her husband cheated with a stripper from our old school! She has two children, and he is being a royal a*s. She works at a pizza place, so she counts on him for most of the support for her two kids. Well, I should say, this is news from her husbands friend, not from her husband, who denies anything happened, but my friend does have some overwhelming evidence,since her husbands friend was there, and saw the incident. She is really pissed right now, and her husband called up his friend and basically quit their friendship, calling him a troublemaker. Anyways, she called me up asking my opinion.You see, I know both of them well, and I am taking her kids into consideration. I just told her to work it out with him, for the sake of their kids! I feel so stupid though, because I wish I would have told her to leave the @#$%&^!, mainly because he is an alcoholic, but I do fear for the future of her and her kids!
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3 responses
• United States
7 Feb 07
You can't and shouldn't advise her to do anything. You aren't in her shoes, know how she feels exactly or anything. The best you can do is help her through it, let her talk to you and give a shoulder to cry on. Support her in whatever decision she makes and just pray that it's the right one.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
7 Feb 07
oh, I do support her! I'd do anything in the world to help her out, and she knows this. Her husband has really hit a raw nerve with me though. I have known both of them for a long time, and I am so upset for her! I also know her husbands friend, he was the best man, and I was the matron at the wedding, so this is really just too much!
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Advising her to leave her husband is easy to say but then your are right about thinking about her kids future if your friend solely depends on him. If they could patch things up then lets just say its a good thing for the kids sake. But then if your friend is really pissed off him then maybe she should start looking for a better paying job that could provide for her kids. That is the best way to solve this thing.
@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
7 Feb 07
She's got a GED. I don't think she has much ambition to really go back to school with two kids, however I hope she proves me wrong in this situation! thanks for the comment!
• India
25 Feb 07
its very easy to say nyone to leave bt then its very tough to think of the future.imagine she works at a pizza place..if she dont get any supprt from her husband after divorce then what will d kids do..i feel ur fren should talk to her husband and solve this issue..