What should I do?
By opinder
@opinder (420)
India
February 7, 2007 4:42am CST
My parents do not approve of the guy i wish to marry. i live with my parents in India. my boyfriend belongs to the same city and his family is still here. but he is living in some other country now. my parents said that his qualifications are not upto their liking. that's a lame excuse. he earns well and has a decent job, a house and the means to support me. i don't know why are they acting so stubborn. they just don't believe what i tell them. what shoul i do? we both love each other very much...
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17 responses
@naadia (828)
• India
12 Feb 07
i am too small to give any advise!me too have some problems with my love.but luckily my parents are not against this relation(i think so,becauuse we ar family friend).there is a misunderstanding between us...hope it will end tomorrow on valentines day.i will give him a pleasant gift along with a poem (thanks to darkwing for the poem...i don't know his original name)...
@kool78 (490)
• India
13 Feb 07
ARE u sure the persons really loves you! And love is just not enough. Its ok for your parents to look for your security. But its you who has to stay with the person throughtout your life. Its your decision of you go with him and only you should be responsible GOD forbid if anything goes wrong. If you can take that responsibility go ahead and do as you like!
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@opinder (420)
• India
14 Feb 07
i get your point. i wouldn't have spoken to my parents unless i was sure of his love for me. i have already thought about the pros and cons. we can marry even if the parents do not agree. but we both want that parents should consent to this relationship and should not base their decisions on assumptions alone.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
11 Feb 07
It seems your parents love you too much and do not want to send you far. Try to find out the real reason behind their refusal, because they are more experieced persons and must have seen something in the boy which you have not seen as you seem to be in too much of love with him.
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
if you really love your boyfriend and he is willing to marry you, then it is up to you,,
are you in the right age?
our parents knows what is best for us, i think they saw and feel something about your boyfriend that do not like, respect your parents decision,and do not argue with them..
talk to them in a nice way,have a heart to heart talk with the, and i know they will surely understand you as the day went on..
do not be in a hurry..give yourself a chance to think...
goodluck,,
@babysusie18 (231)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Did you talk to your parents that you really love him and you want to spend your time with him as his wife? Maybe they just to protective of you. They should know that you'll be fine with him, that he knows how to take care of you. Dont worry it will pass by when you two has a baby.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I am sorry to hear that you are going thtough it with your parents over the man you love. i know how hard that can be. but i tell you this, if you love him, i say forget what your parents say and marry him. you have to do what makes you happy. your parents love you and want you happy. even if that forget to show it
@cyndhirella (549)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Parents are just like that. Perhaps they are still in denial that you are about to leave them. Anyway, if you really love each other, then fight for your love. They can never tell what will make you happy, right? SO be brave.
@pradeep_ranjan (613)
• India
9 Feb 07
Try to find out why your parent do not like hime. If it is just for the qualification then it is not a justified reason. Do you really love him and he also love him? This is a question you should ask yourself. After marraige will you be happy with him. Think twice, thrice....
Try to convince your parent....If you fail then you can do whatever you want.. But remmbemer if you face any problem nobody will there to help you.. So take your own dicission.
@emmasmommy05 (8)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Hello, I have not read any responses, so forgive me if I am repeating myself. I'm not sure what people in your culture do, can your parents stop you from marrying him? As for me, I'm in a similar situation. My parents don't like my fiance. It makes me very depressed, because I love him very much, and he does a lot to provide for my family. We have a two year old daughter. I am marrying him regardless of what my parents think. They do not have to accept him, it is me that wants to marry this man and spend the rest of my life with him. They never have to see him again if they don't want. I wish you the best of luck, but honestly, if it's true love, don't let it slip away because of your parents.
@otacon313 (48)
• United States
15 Feb 07
LISTEN to your parents. They know more than you can think of. trust me.
@anilinduri06 (124)
• India
9 Feb 07
then leave ur parents and jump out from ur house with him......
@usneeraj007 (74)
• India
9 Feb 07
at present you should marry your beloved
as the time left your parents will also aprove your beloved as your wife
so hurry up dear friend
