whats with my ex girlfriend?!

United States
February 7, 2007 11:16am CST
Who does she think she is? Everyone tells their significant other they want to stay friends when they break up..but how often does it happen? i truly wanted to be able to stay friendly with ..lets call her Jane..when I broke up with her, simply because I see her so much at school. Every time i talk to her, she has some snappy hidden insult. I even be nice, and wish her good luck for stuff, and its not acceptable. She gives me dirty looks, and tries to make me jealous. I will never be jealous of Jane...i feel i look better, and i have a much better relationship than she does now. Im so happy..why is she trying fruitlessly to ruin it?
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 07
You've hurt her and rather she showing her emotions and showing you and others she is hurt, she hides it and she hides it by insulting you, it is a great shame but you've offered the friendship she's snubbed you, it's her problem my friend, NOT yours, not much you can do, just leave her be, she may come round, if she doesn't her loss!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Hmmm, well, its pretty easy to leave her alone now...shes really angered me..and i guess thats what she WANTS to see. Im cool with it now.
@apputra (16)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 07
why she to do with you like that, mybe she still not yet forgive you, and still loving you. so come near him, beat to the head so that she conscious quickly. that monkey can't live together.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
lmao! dude..this is hilarious.
@pendragon (3348)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Not everyone wants to stay friends.I have an ex I wish I was never with,two actually, and they don't understand they're "ex's" for a reason.They may think you're trying to throw your happiness in their face to make them jealous and want you back, and that would feel quite annoying.friendship isn't a necessity after a break-up, you tried, it didnt work, I myself like to let it drop.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
That makes sense. If she doesnt come around soon, ima stop trying.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Write her off-- Her loss- You tried to be the bigger person by being nice. Sometimes it doesn't work-- Maybe in a few years you can be friends if you so choose.. Young love .. LOL Be happy with your new girlfriend and leave her be.. Let her be miserable to someone else. Now aren't you super glad that you broke up with her?
• United States
8 Feb 07
Yeah..she already told her new bf she loved him. I cant STAND that. People say love so..freely! Thats one of the main reasons i ended it. i didnt love her!
@bulutoy2k (176)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Jealousy is the only reason I can think of to this situation of yours. I guess she is envy because you have move on with your life. And she is currently experiencing misery because of your breaking up. She is envy because you currently attached to another girl. And your happy with your new found love. You have done your part. You want to make her as your friend. As always the initial reaction of your ex girlfriend is why should she be a friend with you. You broke her heart or vice versa. Although I would understand her because she was hurt with the break up. Just try to understand her. Her feelings should be heal first. Time will tell you when she is ready to be friend with you again.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Thanks for your input =)
@icebucks (127)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I do believe that ex's can be friends... but it take some time. There wold till be some hurt around there especially if the other partner still have feeling for the other.. When they had actually let go1 really let go... then that will be the time they can be friends...
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I wish she would let go! If shes "o so happy" with her bf why is she wasting so much time on me?
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 07
usually it becoz deep down in her heart she still wants u.she is very selvis by doing that, but sometimes love can make people like that when they broke up.she just not mature enough to accept the fact that u both broke up.just ignore her and my suggestions is stay away from her.just forget her to avoid having trouble with her
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Thank you for replying!
@dantelutz (115)
• Romania
8 Feb 07
WHY is she doing that ?!? i am telling you, just because she is a WOMAN :) seriously now, if you are treating her with respect and wishing her all the best and she is doing the opposite things, that means you've got manners and she doesn't! you shouldn't care about that and be indifferent!
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Just keep on keepin on, lol, thank you.
@samraf (725)
• India
8 Feb 07
all she is trying to make you jealous, thats it, she is just trying to show you that she is more happy then she was with you, and she just wanted you to get regrets why you left her and just to take revenge she is just trying to make you jealous which is not possible if you think you are having more better relationship currently then her. so in the reply of her attitue you should ignore her and that will make her feel pity on herself and after keep try again n again to jealopus you and you will ignore her. she would stop her attitutde and may be feel asahme of her self. Regards, Sam
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Thanks for answering =)
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Have you ever asked jane about it? WHy don't you once and for all talk to her and tell what you feel. Then if she accept things, then that is good, then if not, it is not your fault anymore. Maybe she loves you more and it is just she don't know how to express it.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Yeah...when we were ina relationship, she told me she loved me..and i did not like that. We hadnt even been dating long! She would get angry when i wouldnt say it bacl. I think there are a lot of feelings still there.
• China
8 Feb 07
If you're over her, why you're so angry now?
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Hmm, finally a new approach. Well..it has become a nuisance. Shes not getting to me..i just cant stand it because it is every day and other people are starting to notice.
@hartnsoul (558)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Haha. I think she's doing that to you coz she realized what a big loss you are to her. Just don't mind her hang-ups. :) Best of wishies for your new relationship and make sure you are friends within the relationship.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Thank you for replying =P
• Pakistan
8 Feb 07
You heard about soft corner??? you are that corner for her. Where she knew that no matter what she will do she will get her desreved or undeserved attention from some one who can never say no to her and will be always at her disposal. well thats is the irony of many self centered people that they use their love ones like punching bag. and rite now she hates to lose you as you help to satisfy her untamed ego.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Women dont need to be like this in high school. So low self esteem that they need to love guys to feel good about themselves. Thas what i find so greta about my current relationship. My new gf is very independent, she doesnt need me to feel good about herself.
• India
8 Feb 07
Hi NucknFutz, I think Jane is getting back at you for the broken relantionship. I think she has not moved ahead whereas you have moved and are through with the relationship. She is still carrying the baggage of her previous relationship and that's why she is trying to make you jealous or insult you. Just allow her some more time to grow up and just be nice to her, I am sure she will soon give up being nasty. Good luck!!!!
• United States
8 Feb 07
It has to be tiring for her..especially since she is getting nowhere.
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Oh...maybe she was hurt because of your breakup and she is trying to make you jealous because she thinks you might want her back. Your breakup may have resulted in her getting back to you..Talk to her if you want and tell her you aare happy right now and you wish her happiness also. Do not mind her when she still do those things...If you react in what she's doing she'll just triumph over it.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I sure hope she triumphs. I dont evnjoy being around her at all..and im forced to!
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Maybe she's hates you for breaking up with her. Its normal for girls not to be friends with their ex lovers because girls, as we all know it, is very sentimental and emotional. You have lived your own life with your new girl and so is she. And maybe, she don't want you in it. Just give her some time to totally forget everything about your memories. As they say, time heals all wounds. Just wait.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Yeah..ive been trying to keep away from her as much as possible. Simply because i dont enjoy taking to/seeing her
@aprilten (1966)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
well, she probably still wants to be with you and she's trying to hide it by being nasty towards you. you said you're in a better place now than she is so i'd say just ignore the negative things she's doing. just try to understand her and soon enough everything will be better. just don't let those things bother you anymore.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I wont, thanx for the response
• United States
8 Feb 07
I think she still has feelings for you, that's why she can't just let bygones be bygones. Besides, she might not be happy with her current relationship. From what I know, if we couldn't accept things as they are, we still hold either a grudge or a deeper sentiment (like love) because it's just easy to forgive or to let go when everything is really over.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
Yeah..i definitely dont think hich school is for love...at all. Maybe im wrong, i just think real love is far too deep and real for what i see in most high school relationships. People say it FAR too easily.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Hun, you can't be friends with someone who doesn't want to be friends with you. The best thing you can do (for you and for her) is to be there for her, to continue to smile, be encouraging, and just in general be a gentleman. I understand wanting to be friends with an ex, but sometimes it takes time for things to heal and to evolve from a relationship into a friendship, especially for the person who was dumped (for lack of a better word). The fact that you want to stay friends with her says that there is something about her that you value, and eventually the better part of her will see that you are a true friend and that she should be very grateful for you. Hang in there kiddo, you'll figure it out =)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Haha, thanx. Like i commented earlier, shes a nice person, shes just being an uber b*tch!
@Ismokk (21)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I think it is because women believe that only they have the right to break up a relationship. That's how it is from my country anyway. I guess she was angry because you were the one who broke up the relationship and not her. Oh, and I don't really believe that people who broke up can be really good friends after. I haven't seen it happen at all. I myself don't have good relations with my ex-girlfriends.
• United States
8 Feb 07
Lol, im friends with all my exes but this one =P