Loosing a best friend?

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Ever since I got married, I really lost touch with some of my friends, but I've managed to keep a few, and the few most important to me, I try so hard to keep in touch. Lately this friend of mine have been the bane of my existence. She calls me only when she needs something from me and when I call her just for a talk, we end the discussion with me giving her something or doing her a favor, or I end up listening to her problems instead of me being able to vent my frustrations out. Or if we go out, even if she was the one who asked me, I would end up paying for our expenses, with her not shelling out a single centavo. I don't really mind paying for it, but if it becomes a habit for her, when she expects me to be the one to keep giving her. Even calling me to see if I was home coz she wanted to come to our house and use our computer (even if she has her own pc, coz i have dsl access and she only has dial up)so she can download faster, Or to print some files. And now whenever she would call me, i try as much as possible not to talk to her. I'm out or asleep or doing something at the moment just to avoid talking to her. Don't get me wrong. I love this friend of mine so dearly and I really would love for us to be close again. But she has become so user friendly (one who uses and abuses a friend) that find it difficult to get close to her again. Seh is a bit of a manic depressive and She had suicidal tendencies when we were younger and has attempted suicide couple of times, so I don't want to hurt her feelings by being blunt and telling her directly what I think coz I fear it might trigger her, but I'm finding it more and more difficult to deal with her Am I wrong in avoiding her? I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I cannot just continue to take her abuse, but I also know I have to be careful (if I am to talk to her) since I don't want to receive a phone call from her mom saying she has committed suicide (if you get my drift). What can I do? What can I tell her, that she might understand my take with regards to our current situation?