Is Marriage for Life?
By sadgirl_1958
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
United States
February 7, 2007 10:33pm CST
With rates calculated at 43 to 50 percent of all marriages ending in divorce in the United States, it makes one wonder about the odds of surviving in this institution. While I would like to think my marriage will last until one of parts this earth first, I am reminded of the many friends I have had whose marriages crumbled under what seemed slight infractions. Further, there are a growing number of women and men in the U.S. who chose not to marry at all, but remain single. What are your thoughts on the matter? Is marriage becoming a dinosaur?
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@ldmagat (24)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I strongly agree that marriage if for a lifetime...
In my opinion, the main reason why marriages crumble is not because of the fights, not because of the problems they encountered but its the reason of getting married.
Why in the first place is the person actually getting married? Because it's high time they do? Because, no one else loved him/her the way the other did? Because the girl got pregnant? Because it feels good? WHY???
I won't be preachy although i do have the urge to do so... but i know of a lot of happily married couples. Married for a whole lot of years already.
I am sooo happily married to the most wonderful guy. We just celebrated our 10th year anniversary together and there is no sign that this one will end in the near future.
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I am also married for 15 years. It seems like yesterday. He is a very good, kind, wonderful human being. I also know there is a lot of people who thought they had a good marriage - and were surprised when their spouse decided he or she "needed space". Seen it happen too many times. Shocked the other person too. I think that people marry for all different types of reasons and you mention some of them here. I also think there is a lot of pressure from family to get married. I think that families also can influence whether or not people stay together.
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@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
11 Feb 07
I think the life style is the main problem.In US marriage life is not so strong.In India the divorse rate is not so alarming,but is increasing due to following western culture.
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@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I would agree that there is some weakening of the society base - however with growing christian fundamentalism - we are seeing a paradigm shift in the U.S.A. - people who are getting married and having 6,7,8 kids even. I don't know what this will bring us in the not to distant future - but it is certainly a shift. I realize the divorce rate in Asian countries is significantly less. I also believe this has a great deal to do with societal pressures. I have met people in Asian countries who might be better off if they got divorced as they are clearly unhappy - at least one of them if not both of them. But societal and family pressure makes them feel obligated to remain together. Just a thought....
@Money_is_god (255)
• India
11 Feb 07
Well, all i can say is its just because of the generation new!
You know time changes, along with that, human mentality aslo..!
I think you might have heard the stories starting as 'Once upon a time...." in your childhood!
Same thing may be you and me have tell our grand children...like.."Once upon a time, people used to get married...also they used to get divorced, So then and then a new generation came..and thought why to marry and why to divorse..better not to marry at all..."
hahaa..!
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@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I understand the sarcasm about marriage - it is a difficult path to take. But I do believe in the importance of two people coming together with common goals and vision. A lot more can be accomplished with two people than with just one.
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@captain_sparrow (9)
• United States
8 Feb 07
no, its for eternity, are u happy now, now choose my ans the best, bye
