If you're divorced, are you still friends with your ex-spouse?
By lizlibelle
@lizlibelle (144)
United States
February 7, 2007 10:37pm CST
My divorce is final today. My ex and I have been friends for 10 years, married for three years, and separated for almost a year now. We are still very close, and he will remain one of my close friends for life, I am sure. Most people think I'm insane in the fact that he and I are still friends, but after a decade of friendship neither of us are willing to throw it away.
Are you friends with your ex-spouse? Why or why not?
6 responses
@frodloo (424)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 07
yeah. but its make one trouble for me. we are friends for 3 years and my family really2 like him. and now they want me back to him and make a relationship again. more than friend but i dont want it. i have my own love and he`s really hate my ex because of my ex still love me :-{
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@lizlibelle (144)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Ahhh, then the family gets involved. His family and I are closer than my family and I, but they understand that he and I will never be back together. I spend a lot of time with his family and they know that I still love them so that makes it easier on both sides.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
8 Feb 07
Wow. It sounds like you have been a fly on the wall in my house. My ex and I were married for about 6 years and have been divorced for almost 4 years. When we fight it is still bad but the majority of the time we are friends, which most people - including my husband - thinks is weird. We have a son together, so we have to keep in contact. I think that even if we didn't have a child together, we may still be friends or at least keep in touch.
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@lizlibelle (144)
• United States
8 Feb 07
LOL Nope, no fly here! ; )
B and I never fought, and although our divorce wasn't a mutual decision, it has always been amicable. I am happy to see that you and your spouse are still friends (especially since there is a child involved) and it makes me feel less "strange" remaining friends with him.
@lizlibelle (144)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. :( One day, I hope, your children will realize their mistake and welcome you back into their lives.
@sushanthegr8 (40)
• India
9 Feb 07
marride life is very diffrant and friends life is very diffrant.. if u love some 1 she/he dont love u so its not nessesary u r not friend if u like relation in friendship so u wana sure .. now will u be ma friend ?
@lizlibelle (144)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't quite understand what you're trying to say.
Married life IS very different from life with friends, and my ex-husband and I are still very close friends; we've always been very close friends.
I was mainly curious about finding other women and men in my situation.
