How to ask?
By serenae
@serenae (161)
United States
February 7, 2007 11:03pm CST
I really like this guy that lives next door to me, but I am not sure about how to ask him out. I get really nervous and chicken out. I have never asked anyone out before. I really want opinions on what the best way to do it is. Plus, I want to know how guys feel about a woman that asks them out.
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4 responses
@perugu (5279)
• India
9 Feb 07
hi,in general,guys feel some less feeling on women,who take initiation first.but it all depend on guys.you first show your signs of interest on him.after starting conversations,it is your talent,how you handle him to get close to you.
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
8 Feb 07
I'm not a guy but most guys, if not all guys would love to be asked out. However, I don't know how well you already know this guy. You need to be on speaking terms with him before you ask him out. Hopefully you've talked to him about the weather and other small talk before you jump in to ask him out. If you do ask him out, keep it light, like ask him to go see a movie or go out for coffee. You treat him.
@mansha (6298)
• India
8 Feb 07
My appoach will be to smile first and say a hello or two first and become famniliar with him. Then may be suggestr going out that way you reduce the chance of hearing no to minimal and may be you can gather enough info about him, if he is attached or single and free to date. Even if you loose out on adate then also you have gained a friend. Good luck
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
8 Feb 07
well there's no way to beat around the bush with this one, just walk up to him and ask him out, but i hope u made sure he's not attached first.
I've done this in the past, you see, i have the kind of persona, where guys don't approach me, even if they are interested, so i have to do all the work.
But guys actually find it exciting when a woman asks them out, i think, infact he'll probably be more nervous than you are, when you actually do it.
And think about it, what's the worst that can happen?
He'll turn you down? right. that's the worst, just mentally prepare yourself for the worst and hope for the best.
so what, atleast you won't have to wonder about it all the time, then.