Strained relationship: Do you let go of it? or Do you hang on to it? / myLot

Philippines

February 8, 2007 1:09am CST

I've been in this situation before (a gazillion times!!!) where I feel that my bf doesn't love me anymore but he still doesn't make the first move to end the relationship. I tried hanging on to the relationship but in the end I was the one who really got hurt so I decided to end it but it was really painful. It was hard letting go but I can't force him to be with me if he doesn't love me anymore. But before that, I said to myself that I'm willing to stick with him no matter what may happen even if it means making a fool of myself but I was wrong, I did give up because I realized that I don't deserve him. I deserve someone better. I did cry hard. I was in pain for sometime but eventually I got over it and now, I'm perfectly alright.

2 responses

ninetails

@ninetails (154)

• Philippines

8 Feb 07

Of course you should let go of it. There is no point in continuing a relationship when one of you doesn't love or care enough. You are just making a fool not only to yourself but also to the person you are with. It's not a question either of who should end it, if you think your relationship is going nowhere then it is better to let the other person know the truth.. even though it hurts. The more you hang on to it the more you will be hurting yourself. I have been to situations like that myself and have been depressed for a long time. But those situations mold me to be a better person. Trials like this will make you strong and a wiser individual ;)

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gianena

@gianena (256)

• Philippines

8 Feb 07

Thanks for the comment... ;) All my experiences in love taught me to be strong but sometimes I still commit the same mistakes. But right now, I'm trying my very best to make my lovelife less complicated. I'm happy for you that you've overcome all the trials in your life. Take care. ;)

Lush_heidi

@Lush_heidi (994)

• United States

8 Feb 07

I am so proud of you. Some women will stay with no matter what, and no matter how much it hurts them, I applaud you for doing whats right for you. you DO deserve all the happiness and love in the world and need to be with a guy who is willing to give you that,and share a wonderful love with you. Break ups do hurt but you used your head and your heart and for once did what was best for you in the long run! Way to go girl! Good tihngs await you~hang in there!

@gianena (256)

• Philippines

9 Feb 07

Thanks!!! Yep, break ups are hard but we can't prevent that. All we have to do is to deal with it. Be strong and accept the truth. It was kinda hard letting go of that person but I can't force him to love me. right?!?!? Everything happens for a reason. I'm happy right now and I'm really telling the truth. No more anger and bitterness... ;) Take care!!! ;)