How do you disipline?

I'm a mother of 5 with 2 step-children for a total of 7, and I was a preschool teacher for 8 years. My children are 9,9,8,6,4,3,&2 Right now your daughter is going through one of the independant phases of her development. She is naturally going to test the boundries as part of her development, so keep that in mind. It isn't against you, it isn't open defiance, it's just her natural development to explore her environment & test boundries. That being said, you much make sure that the boundries are clear or it will cause her great confusion & she will test them even more. Kids need consistancy. No should always mean no, don't give in. If she takes something she shouldn't have tell her no, if she does it again- put whatever it is away in a place she can't reach it. Re-direction is key to this age group. When my 3 year old throws a fit from not getting his way I put him in his room and shut the door. He can open the door and come out when he's ready. Watching a tantrum or trying to talk your child out of it is just giving them attention for a negative action, which will only make them do it more. Prevention is the best form of disipline I've found. Having a set schedule & giving her choices of what is acceptable instead of waiting for her to find trouble. Out in public, if the children do not behave I pack them up where-ever we are and we go home. I've done it before, so when I say it's going to happen they know it isn't an empty threat & most of the time they fall back into line. - it may take more than once on this one. You need to remember that even if you really want to get that shopping done, or eat at a restaurant- not backing up your word to your child is going to be far more inconvinient than getting something to go, or going back later to buy that milk. too many choices overwhelm a child at that age. If you want to let her have her independance set out 2 or 3 outfits that you've picked and let her chose from that, not the entire wardrobe. when cleaning up after her play time, tell her simple steps. "clean your room" is too big for her at this point. start with: clean up the blocks. when the blocks are done- tell her great job, and give her the next step; clean up the dolls... ect. hope this helps.

What on earth is a "modified child-lead parenting w/bounderies"??? I have never heard that before. I have 3 boys. I believe in discipline straight from the bible. I instruct them in God's word and use bible verses to train and correct. Any willful disobeying is a spanking.