Why does a person give you their cell phone number but never respond?
By kgwat70
@kgwat70 (13387)
United States
February 8, 2007 6:16am CST
I am curious to know why someone would give you their cell phone number but whenever you call they do not answer, they do not return your call, and do not text message you or anything. I have this friend who keeps asking me to call her but when I do she does not answer, call back or text message me. Every few months she sends me a text message with a new cell phone number. Can anyone explain this to me? I am very confused. What is the point in giving someone your number if you are not going to respond in any way, shape or form? I feel like she is playing games.
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@meowsy (116)
• United States
8 Feb 07
well i think sometimes people give out their number just because its easier than not giving it and ... YOU DONT HAVE TO ANSWER!!!
i hate talking on the phone and send alomost everyone to voicemail and then my voicemail instructs people not to leave a message but if they need to get with me to text or email me!!! LOL
and for all the guys on my contacts that i dont really ever want to know if they called they have a very soft ringtone that just lets me know its no one important!!!
now when i get a new number or whatever i just do a mass text to all my numbers and thats prob the reason you keep getting the new number!
either that or she just wants to keep you there as a just in case guy!!!
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I have wondered in the past if she has me on her phone as a just in case guy. I knew she liked me a lot at one point while she was having problems with her now ex-husband. I have never done a mass text message to my contacts before so I never thought about that til you and another member mentioned it. I think she does have other male friends that she talks to.
@himlaks (10)
• India
9 Feb 07
Maybe too shy to talk or maybe some sort of psyche who enjoys receiving calls.
The other reason, maybe, she is a very busy person who is trying her level best to keep contact by giving her no. but unable to attend the phone due to her busy lifestyle.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
8 Feb 07
I don't always answer when I don't recognize the number. And I work odd hours, so people often call when I am working.
She might be text messaging you automatically - like on a list, and thus not realizing that it's you.
I have one friend who does not respond to her cell phone. Ever. And it's often forwarded to her home number, which she also rarely answers. The only way to get a hold of her is to email her. Maybe your friend just does not like to answer her phone.
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I did not even think about it being a text message through a list. That is possible and obviously she still has my number in her phone. I am not sure what her email address is but I know she works in the mall so I may drop by there and talk to her if she is working there still.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Maybe they do this because they dont really want you to call..With a cell phone people can simply turn it off..she is playing games with you and that is nice..Ken you need to tell her that and if she doesn't want to be nice..let her go:)
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
8 Feb 07
The next time that I talk to her I will ask her about why she has not called or messaged me so that she will understand my concern. She is a very nice person as we had worked together for numerous years. I will try calling her one more time and will just stay away unless she wants to talk to me.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
8 Feb 07
That would be my thoughts on this person also. I only give my cell phone number to a few people and family. In our area, there are many black areas where cell phones still have no coverage but my voice mail takes a message and I always return calls.
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I am going to try giving her a call one more time this evening and if I can not get a hold of her I will leave a message again. If she doesn't return my call, then I will just move on and live my life and if she wants to talk to me she knows where to reach me. I know she has been very busy the last year or two with various things but thought she would at least reply in some way and let me know that she has been busy and that is why she hasn't tried to reach me.
@strawberryfields (14)
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8 Feb 07
Although it is very difficult when you feel as though you're being constantly ignored, it is important to remember that objectively, you do not know why she hasn't responded.
There could be a myriad of reasons. Perhaps everytime you call she has her phone on silent, or is doing something that can't be interrupted such as being at work, or being in the cinema. Perhaps she doesn't hear the phone when it goes off.
Perhaps she is a very busy individual who always means to keep in touch with people, but never quite gets round to it due to her busy schedule. There are people out there who desperately keep texting their numbers and asking people to keep in touch but deep down know that they don't really have the time right now for that person in their lives.
The best course of action is not to rely on this person and constantly expect them to respond. You have done all you can to keep in touch now. It is her turn to keep you as a friend, if she has the time I'm sure she will call. If she doesn't then perhaps you are simply not meant to be in each others lives right now, and in some time you will both have the space to make a friendship work.
In short there are many people in the world for you to befriend, ones that do have time for you in their lives. Perhaps it would be best to focus on these people, rather than constantly wait for a phonecall that may never come.
I hope this helps.
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I definitely know that she is a very busy woman with working two jobs, going to school and taking care of her child. She also went through a messy divorce last year so maybe that has something to do with it. I did give up trying to call her and wait for her reply several times over the past year. I certainly have tried keeping in touch with her and will just wait and see if she calls. If not, I will just move on and make new friends and enjoy life. Thank you for your great feedback.
@thelefth (2)
• Greece
9 Feb 07
My dear friend, i suppose you like the girl and you've shown that to her. Im sure you dont know much about her personal life and the thing is that she might not be able to give you attention because she might ne involved with someone. The other aspect is that she only wants to be at the center of your attention and nothing more...girls like doing that and go no further....insecurities if you know what i mean!
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@cyndhirella (549)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Perhaps she's not interested in you. or she feels that your not worth her time. or maybe, she's just too busy to answer your messages. Just wait for her to text you so you wont wait in vain.
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@abhiquest (579)
• India
9 Feb 07
I frequently face this type of problem in business. My clients don't seem to pick my phone and at times it looks very frustrating.
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@thediamond (31)
• India
9 Feb 07
It would be just that the person is very busy, maybe driving, or maybe doesn't want to talk at that time as he is very busy. I just try to call two 2 - 3 time thats all. I wounld not call them again.
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@kang86727586 (5)
• China
9 Feb 07
in my opinion ,i think you should ask she in person,maybe she can give your some seasons.i have never met this,friends should know each other and help each other,that is ture friendship.if she is playing game with you,i think you should think deeply.
@essilem (286)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Looks like she is playing a game with you, or it could be that she really does not want you to call but out of lack of thing to say she says "call me", that happens whenever you can't think of anything else to say to this person you keep on bumping into. I guess you should take that as a cue and move on, let her do the calling instead, if she really wants you to call her she will find a way to get in touch with you. Just be sure to answer her call when she does or she might think you are just giving her a dose of her own medicine.
@sudeepthgeevan (7)
• India
9 Feb 07
having a mobile is a part of life now...most of the peple don't have a single penny to call back....some others want them to make iritating by not attending the phone
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@anne_143god (5387)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Maybe some people give their cellpone numbers just to show to people that he/she is polite to her cellphone if you ask it but really dont want to talk to you or communicate with you.
@charmedguyp1 (431)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I guess your friend was just playing politics. I mean you would often hear people saying see you later or how are you but most often, they do not really mean it and it is just another way of getting your attention or saying goodbye. I guess you can tell if a person really does want you to call him/her by the expression on their face.
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@ameapm2000 (16)
• India
9 Feb 07
hmm i also have same example........they want to avoid us........
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@fingolfin (5)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
they just wanted to be noticed or they just wanted that there's someone that they can turn to when they needed it.
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@robertx (150)
• Romania
9 Feb 07
Well, if that person is really important to you, then you must have a conversation with this person face to face. She must know how you feel about her and about this issues you two have. And you must know how she feels about you and the reasons for such behaviour if any. Hence this story seems very old don't raise too much hope about it, but at least you'll know and settle. After all there are lots of odd people out there. Next time you see her considered giving her your phone number, at least she'll know to dial or erase it from her phone memory. She could be confusing your number with that of someother guy she hates or something. I know people that can't learn to text message over a phone, or read a received sms... but that seems not to be the case here. So pay her a visit to talk and set all records stright. You'll never know untill you do. And when you do get the real answer post it here so we may know too :).
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