How do you survive a long distance love?
By iahnives
@iahnives (48)
Philippines
February 8, 2007 9:04am CST
Does absence make the heart grow fonder or wander?
You're here. He's there. Now what? Is it time to let go or should you hold on and have what all couples dread--a long distance relatonship? If not seeing your husband for several days is hard enough, imagine not seeing him for months or worse, years.
My husband and I were were married for almosy 3 years but we only got the chance to be together for 4 months (can you imagine that!). When we got married, he left a week after because he has to (he lives in the states, a citizen, that is) and I have to wait here (philippines) till my petitions papers are approved. It's really tough (and I mean tough) to be far from him, you couldn't imagine. All those sleepless nights, the never ending crying sessions, burning lines, depressing moments...
So tell me, what are the ways on how to hack that long distance love affair? Tell me...
2 responses
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
14 Feb 07
That's no fun. I was never apart from my husband that long. But when we got engaged we had only been on three dates because we were 1000 miles apart. In the total nine months that we were dating/engaged before we got married we spent less than a week of it together. It was really hard for us, too. I hated not being able to see him. And planning the wedding without him was hard, too.
We found that talking on the phone and sending letters and cards helped a lot, though. I would send him a card just because every week just so he knew I was still thinking about him and missing him.
Also, I did lots of stuff with my friends and family to keep me distracted. It also helped because I knew I was going to miss them when I moved away so I was storing up memories. I know its hard, but it's worth it. Good luck to you!
@iahnives (48)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
yeah, i've been keeping myself busy with so many things...but sometimes it just hits you...when you're about to go to bed and nobody's there beside you...when you're feeling as if the whole world's against you and you need your husband warm embrace just to let you feel you're protected...all that stuff. it's true, we have the internet, phone, cards, etc. but he's comforting touch is still different, way too different no matter what technology we use. but i guess, for now, all i have to do is be patient...i know the long wait will be over...
@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
i can feel how you are feeling. we had the same situation after we got married, but the distance was smaller. husband is in laguna and i was in baguio. we'd meet only every other week so most of the time we are separated. so what i'd do is to make myself busy, especially during the day. find time to be with friends and family, you will miss them when you get to be with your husband. engage in a hobby which can make you forget time :) then set a schedule within the day for you to talk to husband, you can use the webcam and internet to communicate... and before you knew it, you'll be there with him already.
@iahnives (48)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
just curious...why do you have to suffer a long distance relationship when either of you can settle in laguna or baguio? you don't need a visa...
