Mommy advice anyone?

i call my mom "advice factory" whenever she talking to me it end up with some advises.i don't like advises(be honest).but she will never stop advising!

Wow, I am going through similar things now. My daughter sat me down and talked to me and let me relize what I have been doing. I was totally unaware that I was behaving that way. And now since I am aware I take heed and respond differently. Suggest church in her life and maybe you guys can go together. That help lift my spirits up also. And I feel your mom pain. I walk the roads she is walking. And keep your mom in your prayers. She need it right now. She will over come this hurdle it is just gonna take some time. Peace and blessings

I know it has been hard and she seems impossible..And i know why she is picking on you alot..there is this thing called unconditional love, and she knows that no matter what she says and does you will still love her..and be there for her just like im sure she was always there for you..she is just having a hard time right now.all i can say is this..when she says things like that..get real quiet and then say when you are done talking to me like that..call me..right now i dont want to talk..and let he rcool off..dont feed back that negative energy...my mom and i go threw the same as you..and i have learned to blow her off as much as i can..and if u give back the neg..it wil just get worse and no one wind and many bad thigns are said that arent ment..so just tel her to call you back when she is calm..i wish ya luck!

Well, as a mom who has already past all of this in her life there are a couple of things that are obvious to me. One, your mom misses you. She is having a difficult time accepting that you no longer need her to plan and control everything in your life. Two, your mom is struggling with her own place in life. You're moving forward, her job is no longer there to fill her time or provide financial support and being seperated from your dad she is probably feeling a little lost and abandoned. And three, you are struggling for your independence, trying to forge your own way. Add all of these together and you can expect an explosion now and then. It is a difficult time for both of you. The only advice I can give you is to keep the line of communications open. You know your mom loves you and you obviously love her. Just keep loving her, supporting her through this rough spot and keep easing along your own way. Make opportunities to make her feel important to you, as if she is still a vital part of your life. My kids calls me just to say, "I'm thinking about you," or "I saw this thing today that made me think of you," or even to tell me about a decision they're facing and were just wondering "what I think." We have already past the place in our relationships where I feel the need to be involved in every decision they make, but it is nice to know they value my opinion, even if they move the opposite way. It is not an easy transition but if handled with love, care and patience it is managable and will build a strong, lasting bond that no argument can destroy.

The next time she yells at you simply dont go home. Dont go home until she doesnt pick a fight with you before you even get there. Maybe Mom is going through that change of life thing she sounds like she having some problems.

Sorry to hear about this. It sounds like your mom is having a really hard time, and of course it's not fair that she takes it out on you. Her life has changed radically - she's newly divorced, unemployed and you have moved away. You need to tell her that just because she has problems she can't take her anger and frustrations out on you. Tell her that you love her and will always be there for her. Ask if there's anything you can do. Maybe just knowing that she gets your support will help her and your relationship. My best wishes StellaP http://www.your-fabulous-life.com

She sounds like she is going therough some tough times. Maybe she has a lot going on with her including that her baby girl in in college now. Maybe she has a hard time with the fact that her baby is grown up. Some moms have a hard time dealing with this where other moms are happy for this.... It is tough to deal with especially when you don't really know what to do. I would suggest just not arguing with her. Maybe next time she starts to yell, just say "Mom I love you." Maybe this will stop her and m,ake her realise she is going off for nothing.... My mom does these things sometimes and I find it hard as well.

Your mom is going through the empty nest period. Doesn't help that she doesn't have a job and that her and your dad seperated. What she needs to do is either look for another job. Something to keep her busy with the bonus of money. But honestly if she keeps this up with her, be blunt with her. Tell her hey mom this is hard for me as well. But I'm tired of being your punching bag. And if you want to keep fighting with me, I just won't come home. Let her know that your also under stress. Freshman in college isn't a walk in the park, the news of your parents split isn't helping either. So you two have to find somewhere to meet in the middle. I think because of the yelling, start out by writing a letter, first explaining how much you love her. But at the same time the fighting is killing you. That you want things to be back the way it used to be. Good Luck, I hope you and your mom can work things out.

At this time, she has just splitted up from her husband, so she fears another rejection from you. She fears that now you are in college, have a big adventure, have a your own life, maybe you dont want her anymore, She is afraid of this. She is trying to maintain that closeness you guys have before, although I gotta admit that she is doing it the wrong way. What she needs most now is of course you and your love. Stand by her, support her emotionally. Say that you are sorry you lied to her, and that you dont mean to be disrespectful to her, tell her that you loves her and wants to spend this holidays doing joyful things with her. Let her know that you will always be there for her no matter what. Also, get her to open up about her feelings, Im sure she must be feeling very depressed, angry, disappointed, alone, rejected and many other things because of the divorce. Tell her that you want to help her, and for her not to push you away. If it helps, maybe you could take her to a consultant or something with you there. Pray for her so that she gets back that cheerful feeling, gets back the happiness, and so that she realize she still have you. Be strong, and stay there for her. No matter when she yells at you or anything, just act your love to her, hold her when she cries. That sort of things. I hope this will help your relationship with your mom. Good luck

Your Mom might be going through the change and it might all be hormonal. She cant help it. Women turn into royal B------ when they are going through the change and can say and do very hurtful things. Just try to not take anything she does or says personal. She is having a hard time now. It sounds like she has a lot on her plate and now you are gone on top of everything else

I thing I can explain with your situation is that YOUR MOM MISSES YOU! Plus she has a lot of things in mind. Imagine being alone. Your dad is not there for emotional support and since you've been that close to each other, your presence could mean everything to her. What your mom needs right now is understanding and a support group whom she can discuss things. Your grandma can also help by talking to her and simply understanding her tantrums. If you love your mom, understand her situation and pray for more patience. Maybe you can give her a Bible as a gift so she can be reminded of God's love.

OK I am a mommy and had a daughter leave for college a few months ago, so here is some good advice, and also welcome to mylot,sweetie! She is probably very emotional by your leaving for college,losing her job and also the split with your dad. She sounds very stressed and doesnt seem that she knows how to deal with it. I would send an email or letter and let her know you love her,miss her and understand she is under stress,and that you miss the closeness and communication. I hope this helps sweetie! and btw, welcome to mylot, I hope you enjouy it here.

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Give your mom a break but be firm. Sounds like mom is suffering from stress and is finding it hard to let go of the apron strings. I have found that with my parents - it is on a need to know basis...there are certain things that i WILL NOT tell them! Stand up for yourself and be firm!! Good luck and let us know how things are -both a mom and a daughter :-)

she may be with some stress on her life so talk to your mom in gendral and try to tel your situation.

Oh, what a hard situation. She's probably an emotional wreck right now. She probably is taking it out on you and she probably doesn't even know that she is doing it. Just try to see things from her point of veiw. Her baby went to college and her old man split. That must be a horrible thing to deal with. My advice is just try not to argue with her. Try to understand that she is probably feeling deserted right now. Just try to see things from her point of veiw. It doesn't make what she's doing "right". But everyone is cranky from time to time. Just try to be understanding and let her know that you are there for her. She's probably really hurt right now and really confused trying to decide how and what she is going to do for the rest of her life. Good Luck!

My dear try to understand her feelings, someday you will become a mother too, and you realize all mothers on earth has the same attitude which is over protective to their children because of their unconditional love. Maybe she just miss you, even thou ur far apart make a way to keep on calling her, leave a sweet message, or send her a card those litlle things will make her happy. Remember we only have one mother on earth, keep on loving them for as long as they are live. Remember what the Bible said in Exo 20:12 Honour thy father & thy mother that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy giveth thee. John 16:21 A woman when she is travail hath sorrow,because her hour is come but as soon as she delivered of the child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for joy that a man is born into the world. LOVE YOUR MOTHER

Hi there and welcome to mylot.com. Your mom is going through some extemely stressful things in a very short period of time. Just your going away to college is extremely difficult for mom's. You said she just split from your dad and is unemployed. She must be extremely depressed and angry and hurt. Maybe she is feeling abandonded by your dad as well as from you since you are away at school. When people get depressed they can get very nasty. Maybe you can email her to let her know you love her and miss her. In time things will work out. Good luck to you. Don't forget the school has a counseling center if you need to talk to someone.

My self and my friends are alwaysdo some unwanted things like riding,somking,chatting etc....And in my college days we went for gang fights.On that time I broke ones hand in my opponent.He is paliticians son,so the matter would be biggest issue im our college area. So that people took some Gundas and make violent in our college.On that that time i was injured.My left hand was broken. At that time i take a month of rest.My mother gave me a lot of advises.And they really worried about me.She take promise from me whether i dont go for any Quarrel. Im obey my mothers advise, Now im a Software Engineer.. So Who obeys thier mother advise, they became good in future....

well angel, i dont have parents who will make such great deals about these things but i can give a little friendly advise. people get angry with those people who they love the most and since ur mom has just seperated with ur dad she must be under alot of stress and this is just the way to show her stress and to tell u that she is really upset about this seperation. u just have to be calm when all this happen and dont take it to ur heart as she loves u and now she only has u...., so u have to take care of her...., give her some more time and be gentle to her as she need ur caring and nobody else would do that.