Is it okay to walk down the aisle alone?

Philippines
February 8, 2007 10:12pm CST
I have a friend who's getting married in a couple of months and she's in a dilemma right now... She's not sure if she should walk the aisle alone or ask someone to walk her down. Both of her parents are deceased and she doesn't know if there are "rules" to getting married. If she decides that someone bring her to the altar, who should it be?
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I had my Uncle walk me down the isle. We where best friends, anyway. Very close in age. He was more like a brother than my brothers. The bride should do whatever she is comfortable with.
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
That's nice... We're still in the process of figuring out who to choose. She has a lot of prospects. Lol! I talked it over with her and I think she'll ask someone to walk her down the aisle. =)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
When I got re-married three years ago, my father was already deceased (since 1990) and my mother was terminally ill with cancer. I was blessed that my mother lived long enough to attend the wedding but she was very weak and was quite facially deformed due to her cancer surgeries. She asked me to PLEASE not have her walk with me, as much as in her heart she wanted to. My sister, as my Matron of Honor, walked in first. My two daughters were in front of me, walking side by side. Actually, had it been a different church, I would have had them walk with me, one on each side of me. However, the church was small, with an aisle on each side, so neither one was wide enough for three people LOL It worked out nicely, I thought, the way they were just in front of me. I think, as others have said, it's all about personal choice. If your friend truly wants to walk alone, she should. If she really prefers that someone "give her away," it could be anyone. Traditionally, males were chosen but, more and more, we see women escorting brides, as well. I wish her luck in her choice! :)
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
This is a nice suggestion... I'll tell her about this as well. Actually, I think she's nervous at the thought of walking down the aisle alone. Maybe if she decides not to get anyone, she can do it this way so she doesn't become too emotional on her wedding day. =) Thanks a lot. =)
@toonatoons (3737)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
it should be alright to walk down the aisle alone. i once attended a wedding ceremony, and the bride did walk the aisle all by herself. a wedding ceremony is a personal thing, there shouldn't be any rules that will go for every bride.
• United States
9 Feb 07
What about grandparetns or an uncle? There really aren't any rules for weddings any more. People do what they want anymore. If not a relitive maybe a friend of the family or one of her close friends? If that doesn't work then take the spot light all alone. Let everyone know how beautiful you look and how happy you are. Good luck.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
Usually she can ask an elderly relative to walk her down the aisle. It's not unusual to happen since in her case her parents are both deceased. Doesn't have to be close relative, as long as it is a member of her family or even a godfather. An explanation can be given to the guests if so she wishes. This can be done during the toast at the reception, in honor of her parents. If she doesn't want to, due to grief, then she doesn't have to. In the case that she doesn't know any elderly person in her family at all, it is not a disgrace to walk down the aisle alone. If this happens, making a speech in honor of her parents during the reception may become necessary. I hope there is an elderly person in her family or godfather who could give her hand in marriage. Good luck to your friend.
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@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Feb 07
I don't think they need be elderly. Why couldn't a brother walk her down the aisle? Or if it's a second marriage and she has a child by a first marriage, why not her own child?
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
It's up to the bride and the culture. Over here, brothers do not give hands in marriage unless they have quite a big difference in age. Unless of course she doesn't have any elderly person left in the family like uncles, or god father or parents' cousins then it is her choice to ask her brother to do so. Your parents gave birth of you into this world, it is your father's role to give your hand in marriage. If they are deceased then another elderly person (a male) will be suitable for the role. If none in the family fits the criteria, then the bride will have the say who will take her down the aisle.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
I don't handle many second marriages, but the ones I handled usually the brides walked alone. She had someone gave her hands in marriage already before anyway.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
Its her wedding! She can chose to walk alone, walk with someone close to her (male or female), walk with a family, member...whatever she wants. There is no right or wrong.
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• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't have parents either. When I walk down the isle I will probably ask my grandfather to walk me. I don't think it's a big deal if you walk down the isle by yourself though. If I didn't have anyone to walk me down the isle I would walk by myself.
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Would an older brother suffice? She's pretty close with him. Only problem is, he's living in another country and she's not sure yet if he can come home for the wedding.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
Yes I heard a bride did that too because she doesn't have an elderly to walk her down the aisle. So she had to make the choice and it was OK.
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@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Feb 07
In most wedding ceremonies the celebrant asks who gives this woman to marry this man. I do not know whether this is mandatory, however. It may be possible to eliminate this altogether. I think the purpose of someone walking the bride down the aisle is to "give her away". I think it is perfectly acceptable to walk down the aisle alone, however I think I would be a little nervous walking down by myself. My father liked to make jokes to me and my sisters as we walked down the aisle to try and ease the nervousness. If my parents were not alive I would ask a brother, uncle, cousin, or perhaps the person who introduced the couple. I don't even think it has to be a man. At my second wedding my husband walked down the aisle first with both his parents, and I walked down with both my parents. The Matron of Honour and Best Man walked down together as well (after my husband and his parents and before me and my parents). It's done all sorts of ways these days. It's a matter of personal preference.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Thanks a lot for the post. I'm actually helping her out in preparing for her wedding that's why I need to know stuff like this. We don't want to make a social blunder, if you know what I mean. =P
@silkkat (231)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
I think that whatever she feels comfortable with and whatever she wants to do then she should do it. If she does decide to bring someone to the alter with her then it should be someone who means alot to her. But honestly, in this day and age she should do whatever she chooses and be happy. This is her and her fiancee's day.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I know... That's what I suggested. It's her day and she can do whatever she wants to do. =)
@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
13 Feb 07
You can walk down the aisle alone. Nothing wrong with it, it gets done nearly everyday. If she feels funny, then maybe the groom's father or an old friend or her own relative can walk with her. I saw a wedding where the bride's sisters came with her down the aisle. The question of "Who gives this woman to be married?" can be omitted from the ceremony.
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• Philippines
14 Feb 07
thanks for your post... =)We're making our plan already... Heheh..
@nicolai (288)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
It should be her relative who is very close to her or maybe her siblings maybe can accompany her at the aisle. Best Wishes to her!
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
She may request her nearest trusted relative to walk her down the aisle, or her Godparents... As long as there's somebody who would give her hand to her would-be partner in life. Congratulations to your friend :)
@docjudie (42)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Any male that she is close to can walk her down the aisle. This could be a male friend, a cousin or favorite uncle. One reason to have someone walk her is taht traditionally she would have a dance with them during the reception. The is no real rule about this..She should do as she chooses..but any man she opts for Can walk her.. does she have a brother?
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Yes, she has a brother but he's not in the country and he might not even make it to the wedding... Oh yeah... I forgot aboout the dance... Lol. We'll probably make a special program for this... Thanks! =)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
I think that if she feels comfortable walking down the aisle alone then that is alright. . . my parents refuse to come to my wedding, so I'm hoping that my brother will be willing to walk me down the aisle.
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
=( Mind if I ask why your parents refuse to come? Because I can't imagine myself walking down the aisle without my mom. That would be truly heartbreaking... sigh...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
i think she can ask her godparents to walk her the aisle or, any of her close relatives, or brothers. but if she decides on walking alone, since everyone know she already has no parents, she can walk alone.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think it's perfectly fine, because it symbolizes her parents walking her down the aisle. I think it's a sweet gesture and very courageous of her to decide to walk down the aisle alone.
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