Ever met a conformist?
By Wanderlaugh
@Wanderlaugh (1622)
Australia
February 8, 2007 11:22pm CST
To me a conformist is someone who thinks other people's ideas are that much more authoritative than their own.
It's never appealed to me, and the Great Pyramid will take up tap dancing long before I have a good word to say about conformists.
I'm starting to think conformity is just adapting to the human environment, but when it means conformists by definition don't have opinions, just a position, I'd call it a disease. A lot of so-called public debate is no more than reciting positions on issues. That's not healthy. No ideology is famous for understanding others, and divided societies are sick societies.
Youth culture, that strange contradiction in terms, is full of fashion conformity, even crime can be seen as a kind of conformity. You're only as cool as other people say you are...
Some social groups demand conformity from their members. At executive level, the common wisdom (hideous expression) is that someone sets the standards, and everyone else had better conform, on principle. Other forms of dictatorship are much the same.
It's a pretty long list of social situations, so what do you think? Is conformity just a way of fitting in, or something else?
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
9 Feb 07
I think for a lot of people conformity is motivated by fear. It's so much harder to do something you want that isn't popular than it is to do what others are doing. People are afraid of being alone, of being ridiculed, and of making choices by themselves.
I have a friend that drives me crazy with his particular brand of conformity. None of his beliefs are static, or even really growing. They vary wildly based on whatever his newest, shiniest friend believes. I love him dearly, but sometimes he'll come up with things so dumb I just want to say "Can you at least try to think about this rationally?"
I've felt the temptation at times. I grew up with a different religion than a lot of people around me, as well as a different general set of values and interests. And there were times I just wanted to be like everyone else because it would be easier. But I couldn't ultimately do it.
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@Wanderlaugh (1622)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
Yeah, "shiniest" says a lot. A social light globe for the moths.
It's a fundamental life choice some people don't even seem to know they have. I doubt if it's even occurred to them.
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@mommycrat (148)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Interestingly enough, my husband and I were having this very conversation this morning.
I think, ultimately, conformists have deeper issues. Probably at the root of it all is insecurity, especially in those who demand others conform to them. If I'm not secure enough in myself to make decisions based on my own reasoning, then I'm going to blend with what seems to be "right." On the other hand, if I am not secure enough in myself, I might also become overly confident as a show and insist others follow me. It can go either way.
@mommycrat (148)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yes, but try getting a "serial conformist" to admit any of that. Go ahead, I dare you.