How do you handle jealousy?

Well I experience that too, and I think it's because of plain old insecurity and not feeling good enough. I'v been trying to work on this by reading self help books and seeing a counselor but for some reason the one thing that I can't seem to rid myself of is my jealousy toward other women, in fact it gets worse the older I get. I'm alsways so worried my husband will leave me for someone else. I compare myself constantly with other women and it hurts so much. As for friends and family, I'm able to release the feelings of jealousy all the time now and I think it's because of all the work I'v done on myself.

It is selfish of you to demand attention. It is selfish of you to resent others getting attention. It could be insecurity.. But you do know why you are insecure. You just gotta be real with yourself. It comes from somewhere. I think you should try volunteering somewhere. Work with those less fortunate than you and you will begin to see yourself differently. Work with babies and you will feel value.. insecurity usually comes from not feeling valued. Go back over your life..be honest with yourself about it.. at some point something happened.. Chances are its the own negativity in your own head that says those silent negative words that keeps feeding the insecurity. Dr. Phil wrote a book called Relationship rescue. I think you should read it. Sometimes the only relationship you gotta rescue is the one with yourself. This is a great book and you will learn much about yourself from it. You can buy it on Amazon way cheaper than on Dr. Phil's website..but it is absolutely a good read.. and do the workbook that goes with it.. it puts a perspective pn your life that you probably never realized was even there. I hope this helps you... Good Luck

I think everyone has moments like this. Just most of us don't dwell on them, nor let them move us to action. It is fine to feel whatever you want to feel, no one can or should judge you for your feelings. It is actions that count. Don't act on your jealousy by lashing out or otherwise causing stress to your relationships. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way and be honest with yourself. It sounds like you want all of their love for yourself. That isn't fair to them or to yourself. Imagine the tables turned. Remember, if you let your jealousy put people against the wall, they will go the direction you least want.