Would you risk it????
@Katrina901986 (405)
Australia
February 9, 2007 5:34am CST
I am a 20 year old female who has a child who is 13 months old. Now when he was first born the doctors noticed something not right with him. Then we discovered he has downs syndrome. now i do not care about my little boy having downs syndrome but i am scared that if i have another child would he/she have downs syndrome as well. There is a test available for both me and my partner to get done to see if it is in one of our genes. But it also comes at a price wich me or my partner do not have. And there is the other test wich i can get done but that is when i am pregnant and a risk of having a misscarage. I am just wondering to all the females out there would you risk having another child if the next one could have downs syndrome????
but as i said before i dont care that he has downs syndrome its the physio every two weeks and going to the hospital every couple of months for check - ups. then there is the decision when his old enough of a special school or normal school. What would you do in my situation i do want another kid but do i risk it???????
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
It's a very difficult decision because you are aware that having a baby with downs syndrome already in your genes. That kind of child is so special and need to love and special care. I can say is that it's in your own decision if you want another kid knowing that there are possibilities having another downs syndrome child. It's a big responsibility as a parent to take good care with that special child. It's difficult, i know but prayers will do Katrina. I know God will be always at your side.
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Thankyou for your response. And he is a great child to take care of and bring lots of joy to me and my partner.
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
take good care of him. i know your sentiments because i'm a mom too..dont forget to pray for your baby and for the coming babies you wanted. I know God will provide because He is a good parent for us..God Bless!!
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@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
Cosidering your age there is a very low risk but also considering your first child was born with it.. But I know a few people who there first child was born with down syndrome and there 2nd was fine.... Basic Ultrasounds can sometimes pick up on it they measure the neck measurements etc....
You should be fine but can understand your worry as it is very demanding to look after a child with special needs let alone 2 or more.... I wish you the best of Luck with it though....
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
Thankyou for your opinion. We asked everytime i went for a untrasound and they said that there was no abnormalities they checked everything thouroughly. And at the downs syndrome group that i go to there are parents ther with their second child with nothing wrong or their first child. So will just have to wait and see if i decide on another one.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
14 May 07
Well this is obviously a decision only you can make but if you want another child and you think you could take care of another with downs then just prepare yourself for it and for all you know he or she make come out without it. I myself would never have an amnio done during pregnancy its just too risky but i would definately have more kids. I have 2 now and would like 2 more.
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
14 May 07
That is good that you would like 2 more kids. They are great fun and fill your day so you are never bored. Yes having the test done while pregnant is risky. If i do get pregnant again im just going to see what happens when it pops out. If it is another downs then so be it.
Thankyou for your responce to my discussion. And good luck with getting your other 2.
@jolope (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
i think that you should still have a child..if that the decision that you arrived with your husband..if you have another child with a down syndrome then love your child as much as you would love a child with out down syndrome..
taking risks is the challenge of life that will remain undiscovered if not explored..^_^ good luck to you and your husband..^_^
@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
Thankyou for you response it is appreciated. I do know that the risks are a chanllenge of life but i am just trying to get of weather other people would take that risk or not. That is what i am asking. I do love my son to pieces and would do anything for him.
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@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
I don't know what I would do in your situation, I'm not sure anyone would until they are in it. Have the doctors said what the odds are if you have another child that they will have down syndrome also? I do know though that down syndrome children are beautiful and very loving. Children with down syndrome in todays society can grow up and lead very independant lives in a community environment.
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
yes the doctor has said what the percentage of me having another baby with downs but he cannot be certain untill the test has been done to see weather it is in my partners or my genes. Thankyou for your help it is realy appreciated
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@mel_87 (856)
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25 Feb 07
hiya, to be honest im not sure what i would do in your situation, i think i would try hard to raise the money to have the tests done but i wouldnt know untill i was in your situation, as goes for schools i think it would be a hard thing to decide as there r some nasty people out there but every child deserves to have a normal life so maybe i would try normal school. by the way your son is georgous.
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
Yes i am thinking of putting him into a normal school, but i will just wait to see how bad he has got it. He has just recently started to pull himself forward and take a couple of steps forward as in cralwing wise. Once he has done something all the rest of the things just follow quickly. Thankyou for your responce. Yes i think he is cute as well.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
2 May 07
If you want another child then I would try again to have another one. Just because your first one was born with it doesn't mean that the second would be too. If you could afford to have that test done then I'd do that to see if you or your partner carries that gene. I know a lady that has two children, one that has downs syndrome and one that doesn't. So it could be that your next baby wouldn't have it but then again they could. But I want to say good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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@Katrina901986 (405)
• Australia
7 May 07
Thankyou for your advice and yes i know that some parents have one kid downs syndrome and anotherone who doesnt, as some of the parents at the disability service place has only one out of three kids with it. My partner and i are just going to see how bad my son has it then decide. Thankyou for responding to my post.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
If you want another child then I would say to go for it . You will never know what you could be missing out on because of your fear . There is no way for anyone to determine weather or not this is going to happen again unless you go for this test and since this is too costly you can either never have another child again and always wonder or you can try again .
Best of luck in whatever you decide .
