yesterday my boyfriends said to me...its over..what should i do...

You need to grow up and get over him. Im sorry to sound so blunt, but it sounds as if you depended on him too much. You need to realize if this man can just up and leave you as he did then he's not worth having. You need to get your booty up & out & meet new friends & learn to love yourself. Learn to deal with & cope with your depression so that you can fully give yourself to any mate you may have. If you arent truly happy with yourself then you wont ever be with another person. You need to feel ok living on your own & without a man. It is perfectly ok to be without a man...trust me Ive done it you can do it too :) if you feel like its too much maybe you should think about going back to your home country! Im sorry he broke your heart & hurt you as he did. But he's not worth it if he's that much of a creep. Learn to get over him...I know its not easy but its the best thing you can do. You dont want a man around who doesnt respect you or want you in return! GOod luck. best wishes for you.. :)

You're not going to die without him. You need to pack up your things and move out. You can't make him want to be with you, the best thing you can do is move on. If you miss your home and your country then go back! It'll be hard, but you can do it.

I really feel for you, it must be awful feeling you have no-one. First you need to talk to him, he may feel happier today. Tell him how you feel, he may have just said it in an angry moment. Is there anywhere you can go locally to meet people, an art group, gym. book group, horse riding where you could meet some new people? Even if he just takes you out with some of his friends so you can get to know their girlfriends, if you feel down a lot of the time maybe you need to see the Dr, or is it just because you are lonely? I'm going to send you a friend request so you can talk to me when you want. I can't make it better but I can listen and help you sift through this if that is what you'd like. Try to be brave, seeing how upset you are might make him feel guilty and he may push you further away, I promise if I am not on-line I will answer any message as soon as I am. Wipe the tears away now, get a warm drink and try to calm down a little bit.

I would try to find another place to live first of all he might already have a girlfriend so get away from him immediatly because if you dont you will be so hurt if you find this out. Believe its happened to me. You can always talk to him but justs leave him alone for awhile. take this advice please

I think that you might be better off without him in the long run. I can't tell by your post what he did to try to help you feel better, so I have to assume that he was the center of the relationship. That fact might have actually made your depression worse or CREATED the depression as you were already homesick. This is your chance to focus on yourself. You have given 3 years of your life to someone who doesn't appreciate you. What are the things you wanted to do for yourself before you got into the relationship with him? What are your interests that he couldn't or wouldn't tolerate? I bet that if you sat down with paper and pen, you could create a very long list of items that you have neglected just to keep him content.

if you really love him you should set him free. if your not what he wants you need to let him find what he wants.

you are a beautiful girl,you look like jessica simpson.im sorry youve been so sad.why are you away from your home and country?i know alot of men who would jump at the chance of a date with you.i know it dosent help much but you just have to think that its his loss.hold your head up high and try to make the most of your life.

Angelika, i'm very sorry to say this but from what u say its clearly seen that he has already decided to dump you...the reason he said for leaving u is jus one among the many...but i think anyone can judge the most obvious reason y he said so...its not coz of ur character but its dat he has found another gal for himself...if he wanted u to change he would have definitely asked u to do so rather than asking u to pack up...so i dont think u can patch up this anymore...better go ahead with ur life...nd d next time u get into a relationship do stop worrying abt missing ur home nd country nd start living in reality...all d best :) if ppl start dying for broken relationships then half the world wud be a graveyard...better change urself!!

why did u first of all go to a country that u do not even know anyon. Thats your first mistake u should have maybe guessed that something like this can happen anytime and when do u go to if u do not have anymoney u have to start looking for jobs and all that. well u said that you guys arein love and valentines day is almost near.YOu just have to make-up with him tell him that you ar sorry about what happened the other day so u guys can get along with each other better..

Well... you better stop looking sad to start with. Then you better apologise to him for your behaviour. Then you better start making some changes in your life. By the sound of it... this has been going on for a long time and you have not tried to mend your ways. It is also probable that your personalities are not compatible. People should not have to change in order to make their partner happy. So maybe... breaking up is the best thing. The bit I do not understand... What are you doing there if you miss your home and country? Why don't you go back home? Makes no sense to me. Last suggestion... If he does not want to talk to you... write him a beautiful letter to let him know how you feel. Just make sure that you do not show any anger towards him or say anything which could upset him further. Don't worry about him dating other girls. He only told you that to punish you. But if you want to keep him... you will have to eat some humble pie and make some changes. He is not going to hang around someone who depress him. Maybe now, you'll start realising that losing him is going to be a lot more sad for you that whatever you were sad about before. Look at it as a challenge... Your challenge is to get him back. And if you succeed... You will have something to smile about. But why am I telling you all this? You are a woman... My ex-girlfriend could make me really mad and I would not want to talk to her. But it would only take her half a hour to seduce me and make me forgive her. Use what God gave you.

Well, this is not entirely your fault. But I think you should be the first one to make the move to get him back. You see, whenever he sees you, you're always sad and that made him think that you are not happy with him. You can't blame him for feeling that way. If you really love him, go take him back. Let him feel that you really love him. Don't waste even a minute, move now before it's too late.

well i would say go over it love and try build you life to make him notice what did he loss by ieaving you, you said you know he loves you, well if he loves you then he won't leave you so let's get this right he dosen't love you that much you think he dose,you are still young and pretty and guys are waiting for you,well u r very good lookin in your pic,so don't get desperate.

you have to think girl, and look deep inside your heart what you really like. are you still happy? if you're still happy then go after him. if you have to court him, then go. but if you're not happy anymore, then maybe that's it. you're not meant to be. the basis of a strong relationship is not the length of it but the happiness that you experience within it.

First of all, do not be so dramatic, guys hate it. Second, get your hair black, it'll be much better. Third, say to he that he was nothing to you and meet someone who deserve you. Fourth, stop crying like a baby.

wow!!!what a kind of man is hat!!!you know my opinion bout him...he just take adventage on that situation,,,he will just use that to complete his plan...to sperate with you...maybe he was just waite for the time he get right time..and booom he got it...its his plan...its not youre fault...go back to youre home...then forget him!!!!take care.....

just say him ...the asy words..just if you are good looking go to a club with the best clothes you have and you will find one for you very soon

As you say, you were together for 3 years and hes got very strong character and personality, then i think the doors are still open for discussions. bcz people with strong characters are never such merciless. but i would like to ask you, if he's right when he says you are sad all the time everyday. if that is so, then you'll have to accept that the fault was somewhere in your behaviour. if you love someone and also know that the person also loves you , then you must be happy when he/she is with you. if you have any problems those are making you sad ,then too, you can discuss with him. it will also give a sense of belongingness. it gives a sense that you trust him and discuss your problems with him. Angelinka you must understand his feelings . if i were in his shoes i would have thought the same way. but i would have asked you first, why you are not happy with me, before taking such a decision. anyway go to him, and tell him how much you love him. also tell him that you were sad bcz you miss your home, your country. make him feel that you love him very much. and yes in India there is a proverb " The greatest weapons a woman has, are her tears." i am a man and i know this is absolutely correct. hope you understand what i want to say... hey dont take it seriously . i am just kidding (that i must not, bcz you are sad). ok . if he agrees to give you another chance, then make sure ,you are not going to make this mistake again. allways be happy when he's around. if you have any probs then discuss with him. if you are missing your home then you may ask him for a journey to home. allways remember , sometimes may be we are sad but we have to pretend as we are happy, just to keep the other person happy. ok? so go and talk with him. I will pray for you. God bless you my sweet friend.

oh,i am so glad hear about that,but i think you aren't wrong in this case.i know that you are very love him,but i can feel too what your problem,because i know the pain if we longer not to go on our home.i think you must prefer to forget him. so if me in your condition i will to try to forget him,i know this is very difficult for you but at this time you must understand your position,he is not love you again,so you must accept the fact.don't too long fall in the sad condition,you must to think far of your future,because this life is beautiful,maybe in the next time you can find someone who is can understand you with all your condition and more love you.only this can i said for you and i am so sorry if i give comment not perfect.thanks for your attention.

Hey Angelinka, I'm so sorry to hear this, break ups are the saddest things in the world. I don't want to say that it was wrong to leave your country and everything for him, I couldn't because I'm doing the same thing. You can never know what's going to happen, It could have ended up being the best thing you ever did. Since it didn't you have to go on, and as the other girls suggests it seems like you need some work on your self esteem. Move back home to Lituania and do things for yourself, get an education if you don't have one, get a better job, meet new friends. This is your chance to start over, more experienced since you have lived in another country, stronger since you have learned how dangerous it is to depend too much on someone else. Go learn how amazing you are.

hi angelinka....i think u shud jus forget that guy i knw its tooooo hard for a girl to do that but if a guy doesnt care for ur feelings then i tdon think he deserves "u"...coz even after beeing in a relationship for 3 years,he dint understand ur feelings then i think thers no way to go n to carry on that relationship wen thr r no feelings left ..so i think u shud be strong n kick him before he kicks u