Loving someone without a deal
By quickpaisa
@quickpaisa (52)
India
February 9, 2007 12:31pm CST
I think its very diffucult to love someone without expecting the returns. You are always expecting to get the returns in larger quantity. Well this is not a market. If you really love someone dont expect anything in return. All miseries start because you start expecting more intensity from the opposite side simply because you are spending your emotional wealth. If you get it back then you are lucky and if you dont then dont feel bad. Believe me you will get the ultimate love later if not today. After all we are humans. It is our nature to love. Please remember that the most unfortunate, unlucky person is one who thinks that there is no one in the world whom I can love and not vice versa that I am not being loved by my boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, colleages, friends. If you really love then go all out and see how beautiful this life is
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41 responses
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Yes, but if you really love someone then you should not expect him to love you back because if you do it will hurt more. It is giving without expecting anything in return, that't the true meaning of love.
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@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
10 Feb 07
Platonic love doesn't expect any returns. This sort of love continues even though the other side remains unresponsive.Love and lust are two things we humans misinterpret always.
@temperamental (73)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Well, it would really hurt if you can't get back the love you give. As they say, there are only three great things in this world: to love, to be loved back, and for those two to happen at the same time.
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@nina12 (1)
• Egypt
10 Feb 07
i think u r right about your opinion,,and i agree,,i have a mizerable story about love fm 1992 till 2005 ,,now am 33 years, i know it's very difficult in this time to find some one comfortable for u ,,because every things change inside person i don't know why. but i belave in right & realy love,,i hope one day find my right normal man ,,because am normale lady have a lot of love lot of feelings lot of sentimental &i beleve that god give me all that to use in my life but with the right man
i know that down time is not an option to choice
hope to all persons search about right love to finde
best reards
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
14 Feb 07
The only thing I expect from the people I love is their love in return. That's it. I think giving someone my love is the best thing I can give, cause no one else can give it.
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
15 Feb 07
Thanks, yes, your own love is unique its not possible to find elsewhere.
@vetsmom_rgv (1083)
• United States
9 Feb 07
That is true but I think we have to look past that! My husband and i really don't think of that, all we want is to spend time with eachother. I expect nothing but love from him and vice versa.
For people who are dating I'd tell them not too buy extravegant gifts until the "engagement ring"! Anything before that is a waste of money if you truly don't tend to spend the rest of your life with that person!!
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
10 Feb 07
My experience about love is little dfferent.
I think love starts there where one is waiting for.
I mean one who is need to be loved or some kind of help in his painful days.
The "Baby of friendship" borns when you help some body
when he really need it, that to with no obligations nor any expectations in return.
This baby actually takes a shape of love in later time after a long continued companionship.
So one must first develop the habit of helping others.
The happiness is not far when you make friend circle with
few friends.
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@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
10 Feb 07
How true. Nowadays, people only love to get something in return. Number one they want to get is love in return ofcourse. I wonder if there is someone out there who has loved and not wanted anything from that love.
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
That is a very hard thing to do to love and expect nothing in return. I think we also need a little appreciation of our love. Yes, we are all humans and our nature is to love but we also need someone to share that love. By simply sharing it without expecting nothing is a depression for human but not to all. Give love and be loved in return are such the nicest gift and expectations for all humans.
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@braided (698)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
Theres a saying .... what goes around comes around .... well if you give love, it will come back to you .... but if you wait and expect .... you could wait for a long time .... and in my humble opinion ... accept the person you love as they are without expectations ... if you cant do that you are with the wrong person and they are too ... which will only end up in heartache ... acceptance is the fertile soil in which a relationship can grow ... as well as allowing the indiviual in the relationship to grow .... and dont assume anything .... assumptions is the beginning to all f**k ups .... just some thoughts i have learned over the years ...
Be happy ....
@i_was_young (89)
• Romania
14 Feb 07
everybody expect something from someone......in love...i think i expect love:P
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
14 Feb 07
Thanks, well nothing wrong to expect love. the only thing is that if you do not get what u expect then all miseries start.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
All i can say is that I do agree to you completely. Love isn't something you give and expect something in return too. Giving love is something that's supposed to make one happy. If loving somebody makes one miserable and unhappy, then it definitely cannot be considered love at all.
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
13 Feb 07
Thanks paulsy, thats right.loving somebody shouldnt make one miserable and unhappy.
@annettenasser (2992)
• Kuwait
10 Feb 07
yes you are right, its really hard to love someone who doesnt love you in return, or just waiting to love you when you are lucky enough to catch attention of your love, but is unfair to love one sided,,its not healthy..
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
there is an old saying "the one who loves the least controls the relationship" This is what I believe as I learned it the hard way
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
14 Feb 07
Thanks, Ya, there is so much to read in this single sentence of yours.
@grzdingz (187)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
i experienced being in love and even abused by my ex-boyfriend in terms of emotions. we were lovers and our relationship still goes on but he has another girl. i mean he is a two timer then. you know what? i never give up even if i know he has another girl.....and never get his full love and attention....what i believe is that......time will come that hewill realize that i am important to him and that he will need me and im not there then because he allowed me to go and never return to him.. its over....sounds so sad but it happens...you cant find a person valuable to you once he or she is gone...i never expect any returns once i love a person.. .because i love to help them realize the importance of a person once he or she is still rather than he or she is gone..
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
13 Feb 07
Thanks, you are truly in love. he will surely come back to you. if not then he'll be the most unluckiest person.
@smartumer (48)
• Pakistan
10 Feb 07
I do agree with you.... We all have jus to luk around all the beautiful things around us, the ppl who care abt us, who luv us... Life is so beautiful, so one has to make the most of it..!
@banastar (9)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Loving someone is always a deal. We have to rephrase the word "Deal" but significance remains same. First we need to understand what is a deal, not just a commercial terminology. Every deal is always associated with some expectation. Expectation is ranging from short term to long term. Let me give you an example, In case of friendship its a deal which is generally long lasting and same applicable to a parent-child relationship. But for a teenager, relationship with his/her counterpart might have a short and quick expectation.
@quickpaisa (52)
• India
13 Feb 07
Thanks, thats very practical. Its not wrong to expect.
Let me explain in terms of charity (actually there is no relationship between love and charity, its just an example) I feel that if you are able to donate without keeping accounts or remembering it then its value is enormous. Similarly if you do not keep records of your love within u then there wont be any problems.
@rehabrehab (9)
• Egypt
10 Feb 07
of course no real love with no return............but whwt returns anyone need.....of course it will be just (Mutual true love)
