He's friends with his Ex-Girlfriend
By ChicaPerica
@ChicaPerica (38)
United States
February 9, 2007 1:37pm CST
Guys, I'm breaking my head over this, I need everyone's advice. I've been in a long distance relationship with my bf for about a 1 year in 3 months already, we've had our little arguments like any other couple due to our distance. However, there is one issue that keeps popping up very often. His Ex! Its been 3 years since they broke up, they didn't talk the year after. Suddenly when I came into his life, she pops out again and he says they remain good friends. I know very well he would not cheat on me, however, I feel his ex may one day lead him to it. He says she's one of his very few good friends. At first it didn't bother me cause I'm past the whole "I HATE HIS EX" ordeal. Yet, one day he told me that out of the blue she showed up at his job to say he couldn't stand to see him with me and that it hurted her. (Mind you, she broke up with him because to her he was "controlling." But he's not like that with me, maybe cause I don't do things to make him react that way.) I tried to be her friend through this facebook by writing to her and getting in good terms. Then I noticed she started to write things to him to obviously make me jealous, which always lead to a fight. I've really had it with her and one day we had a long talk cause I was to a point where I just want cut it off. I told him to keep his distance from her because the more he was around her, the harder it would be for her to move on or "accept" us. This was 4 months ago. Just now, I saw pics from one of his friends site, and guess what, she's there! I brought it up and he told me that he didn't want to make a big deal about it because its not worth it. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Should I just trust him more? Was it too much to ask when I said to keep his distance from her..:( Help please!
3 responses
@addicted2luv (390)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
If you really trust your guy, this shouldn't bother you even if he's far and he's friends with his ex. I've had tha same problem before. I can't seem to convince my girlfriend that it is really over between me and my ex. We're also friends (my ex), so she's (my current) really bothered by this setup.
@ChicaPerica (38)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thank you so much for your response. Well since you're in his shoes, would you find it wrong if your gf asked you to keep your distance from your ex. The other thing about this situation is, she still has feelings for him. If it wasn't for that, it wouldn't really bother me. :(
@mazmoaz (248)
• Norway
9 Feb 07
Friends with his Ex..? Oooooh, sounds like trouble.
Oh, did I say that..? Ohohohohoo..
Yeah, I've seen too many movies.
I am a guy, and it is really hard to REALLY trust a male. And from a long distance..? Ooooooooh....And he's friends with his Ex..?
Hohohohohoho..
@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Hmm, wlel I can understand how it bugs you that the ex is in the picture. That would bug me as well. I say just avoid hearing about her. Ask him to not mention stuff about her around you. If she tries to hit on him but you know he wouldn't allow it, then don't worry about that part. And try not to mention how much you can't stand her, I did that once with a guy and he took it as I was jealous of the person.
@ChicaPerica (38)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Thanks, I've actually been trying that. I'm perfectly fine when I don't hear about her, till I see her in a pic or he tells me she did one of her dramatic scenes again where she can't stand the fact that he's taken.. Come on now, we're adults! lol But thanks for the tip! ;o)
