so i got this problem...

United States
February 9, 2007 3:21pm CST
okay, so im talking to this one girl now... and before i started talking to her, i had a thing with her friend.. and me and her friend did some stuff.. but then i dont know if this girl im talking to knows about it.. so what should i do? because when all three of us are together at a party or something, i feel a little weird, and i dont want their friendship to end or anything because of me.. and i dont know if i should tell her or not?
7 responses
Myrrdin
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
Be upfront with her. Tell her that something happened with her friend, but there is nothing still between you and her friend. If you don't it WILL come up eventually and it WILL ruin your relationship. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.
andiruleu
@andiruleu (310)
• United States
9 Feb 07
yeah.. but honesty can always get you in trouble too.. cause right now, we're not really official on anything..
andiruleu
@andiruleu (310)
• United States
10 Feb 07
i think you're right.. but i think i should tell her later on.. right now its a little bit too early for me to tell her.. when really get serious, i might tell her then.. thanks
Myrrdin
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
9 Feb 07
Honesty can cause trouble, but not near as much as keeping the truth from her. Just approach her and tell her you want to be open and honest and tell her about something that happened in the past, emphasize that it was the past. If she can't get over it, well sorry pal, but if you keep it from her and she finds out (and she will find out) then you are in alot more trouble.
Trish012
@Trish012 (101)
• Puerto Rico
9 Feb 07
don't do it. Friends are something that no one should come in between. My advice, find another girl, one that isn't friends with anyone you've been with. This will make life much easier, I promise.
andiruleu
@andiruleu (310)
• United States
9 Feb 07
i know.. but i'm already in too deep to just let her go.. i dont wanna hurt her feelings.
Krisnik
@Krisnik (84)
• United States
10 Feb 07
hmmm..well people make mistakes..so if this you tell this person and she understands than all good right?? its better to tell her than to hide it from her! trust is the key here. well if all else fails there are plenty of girls out there!
verbose
@verbose (87)
• United States
9 Feb 07
You should be upfront with them both and its gonna come back to haunt you
andiruleu
@andiruleu (310)
• United States
9 Feb 07
well i think the girl that i messed around with, knows that im talking to her friends.. and i hope that she wont do anything to ruin it.. because i messed around with her, and then later on i had feelings with her friend..
koh2007
@koh2007 (341)
• Singapore
9 Feb 07
ask all your friends involve in the incident to come out.. sit down and see where the problem lay.. and also if there is any misunderstand or miscommunication involve
etheljeah
@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
i think the best thing that you can do is be honest to yourself and to the girl you like. because even if she doesnt wanna know about it,i think she needs to know because the person that's involve is her friend. and i think a friend is someone really special. and if u keep it to yourself,you might just ruin everythn that you have started..
Trish012
@Trish012 (101)
• Puerto Rico
9 Feb 07
don't do it. Friends are something that no one should come in between. My advice, find another girl, one that isn't friends with anyone you've been with. This will make life much easier, I promise.