Do you Believe in Love at First Sight?

@davaoguy (319)
United States
February 9, 2007 4:09pm CST
Since it's nearly Valentine's day and I have no date, I guess I'll just start a topic about love. I think love at first sight is just best seen in movies. I think in real-life it's more of infatuation that people think is love when they see a person. It's also very superficial because you base your love with what your eyes see. Plus, how about blind people? Do they experience this as well? This is the reason why I don't believe in love at first sight.
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@lauraas1 (29)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yes I do believe love at first sight. When I met my bf I just knew that something good was going to happen. I have been with him a year today.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Did both of you experience it or is it just one person at first? I guess I am just too subjective but in a world where in people fall in love right at the very moment they meet is just so perfect. And we all know that nothing in this world is perfect except change or God. Anyway, I respect your opinion. Thanks.
• United States
9 Feb 07
Yeah it was both of us thnks
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
You just felt that something good was going to happen yet you can't really tell that you were already in love with him at that moment. I can meet someone later and feel the same thing but i would not claim to be in love with him already. I "might" love him but not at first sight. I believe that love is deep therefore it requires many experiences together, getting-to-know's, ups and downs before you can really tell that you are in love. :)
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@pagibig (297)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
yes. my bf and i met online. we decided to have coffee after a whole night of talking. without any plans of hooking up. it was just a really nice conversation. We met up. and a few days after we were together. we've been together for 9 months. and although we fight, we continue to love each other more and more every day.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I hope more people who experienced it first hand would describe how it happened. I would like to read their experiences so that we could comment on them.
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
erm.. i'm not sure if we can call it a true fact.. because it's not scientifically proven yet. sorry. maybe i haven't experienced it so that's why I'm being skeptical. But then again, how many people actually DO get to experience it? love takes trust and understanding.. and are you sure that you can trust and understand someone at first glance?
• Romania
10 Feb 07
You must believe in love at first sight because it's a true fact! It's almost imposible to explain but once you've fealth it, you will never forget that feeling.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think it is possible; but, not very common. When I was a lot younger, my boss and his wife had been married 14 years. He said they met at a party and a week later they were married - love at first sight. For them it worked. But I don't think that is true for most people. They are the only couple I know of that "fell in love at first sight" and didn't fall back out fairly soon afterwards.
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
yeah i agree that it's really very rare and it takes a lot of luck. i think love needs to be nurtured.. =)
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
9 Feb 07
I don'[t believe in actual love at first sight. I do believe you can meet someone for the first time, even if it's attracted by looks, start talking, go out,and have it form into a relationship which migtht make it seem like it was love at first sight. But it really wasn't.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 07
to me i must spend sometime for that person in order for me to fall for her
@072006 (1276)
• India
9 Feb 07
nope, i dont beleive in love at first sight, infact i feel that love is deep feeling and emotios which cannot be felt for created for someone seeing at first time, love is something which takes time to go in strong relation and emotions , which can be built only with time, love at fisrt sight may be attraction of part og infatuation, well for me "LOVE TAKES TIME, LOVE IS SIMPLE AND DIVINE"
• United States
9 Feb 07
Well... don't laugh... but when I first saw my husband, I knew. I know this sounds crazy... but I was not "looking" when he crossed my path. I looked at him and got that feeling you get when on a merry go round. You know the one.... your stomach turns inside out. There was just something about him, a certain look in his eyes I guess. but in my opinion... love at first sight really does happen!
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Wow, I guess it's just nice to know that someone experienced it first hand. I guess I may have to experience it myself in order to believe it.
@cicerone (95)
• India
10 Feb 07
I dont believe my dear.Love does not happen because you see each other.It is a matter of understanding where both of them need to have some interaction or at least they must have been known to each other well before....
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• India
10 Feb 07
Wow, what a lovely thing to bring up.. I not only believe in love at first sight but also have experienced it and would want to go through it again and again with the same person.. It's not a easy thing to explain they say that marraige's are made in heaven and i believe in that too only that i am not married but living with my love for 5 years now and it still feels like it's only yesterday i met him at my store where he walked in and i wished him a good morning and there it something strong hit my heart i cud'nt see or hear anything else i was so lost that i even tripped on the phone wire i was holding and just wanted to be around him and he told me much later that the same thing happened to him.. Even now when we talk about that moment we always end it with a sweet kiss and seal it with a hug so we never lose the memory of that first terrific moment we shared and will never forget till eternity even when we are in our 80's I truly hope that every girl and boy finds their love and stay happy as i am now.. Please touch the wood for me..
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• Singapore
10 Feb 07
Oh my. I've never experienced something like that before.. though I bet it would be sweet. I'm really happy for you! BUT.. if everyone has a soulmate.. how can we be sure that we'll find each other? what if both parties are each at the opposite end of the world? what are the chances?
• United States
10 Feb 07
My husband met on the internet first and then about 2 weeks later we met in person and it was love at first sight. You just know when that someone touches your hand or puts his hand on your back and it just makes you feel like you are with that one and only person that your ment to be with for the rest of your like. I don't think that this is really love at first sight its like the cemestry that has came together to be with that person.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Yes, you're right about the chemistry thing. Your about the third person who had signified that met his or her match via the internet. However, as I've said before, it's not "love at first sight". But it was the past interaction that made you two all in love with each other. Thank you for sharing us your thoughts!
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
I do believe in love at first sight. That was what happened to me when I first saw my wife. It happened at a bookstore, where she was browsing a magazine. She had her back turned but something told me to approach her and see how she looked like. When I saw her face, my heart pounded so fast like I was going to have a heart attack. I froze and just stared at the beautiful and angelic face in front of me. After about like an eternity, she probably noticed that someone was staring at her so she looked up and our eyes met. I did not move, I did not look away. She blushed and put the magazine back to the shelf and started to walk away. I followed her and almost stuttered as I asked her name. She must have noticed my nervousness because she smiled, and then gave me her name. Oh my God, she was even more beautiful with that smile. My knees were really trembling and I felt I could crumble any moment then. But I mustered enough strength because I don't want to let her go anymore. I invited her to a nearby coffee shop, and that's where our love story began. Now she is my wife and we have two adorable kids. We make it a point to celebrate the day we met by going to that same coffee shop.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Thank you for sharing your experience. That is indeed lucky for you to have found the love of your life in a bookstore. I wish all the best with your wife, irreverent!
@cabergren (1181)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I actually met my husband on Match.com. We emailed for about 4 weeks. We emailed everyday and by the time we met we knew lots about each other. Never talked on the phone, just emailed each other everyday and talked about everything. We met 4 weeks later and it was love at first sight. We were married less than a year later. I never used to believe in love at first sight, but this definitely convinced me I was wrong.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Although that could be classified as the literal "love at first sight", I think it was the experience of emailing and communication you had that triggered that "love" you had each other when both of you met. Thank you for sharing your experience!
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
yeah i agree with davaoguy. love needs understanding and you guys have already had that understanding between the both of you when you two have met. so it shouldn't be classified under "love at first sight".
@JhoeAnne (57)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I really don't believe in love at first sight. It's better expressed as "Attraction at first sight". How could you tell it's love when you barely know the person. It's the physical attraction that makes us say "love at first sight". But it definitely isn't the real thing. You may like the person physically the first time you see him.. but as you'll get to know him better and better, you'll soon realize that he might just not be the one.
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@davaoguy (319)
• United States
10 Feb 07
That's more being specific about it. Men are usually guilty of this. "Attraction at first sight" is a very superficial way of assessing a person. When in love, you see beyond what the eyes could see and it's definitely not love when you base it entirely on looks, isn't it?
@sum_19 (56)
• India
10 Feb 07
Yes i do believe in " LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT "...It is possible and about 20% of people who did love marriage, started their love relationship at their first sight. In some cases, it may be infatuation so people should give some time to think over it before proposing someone.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
10 Feb 07
no, i don't. I believe in Lust at first sight. Love is too complex to have in an instant. although it is nice to think you love someone right away, it usually doesn't last. if it does, great for You!
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I think,and yes i agree, love at first sights are more of infatuations. But i believe in the idea of love at first sight. I never experienced it yet though but the thought and feeling of just seeing someone, both of you looked into each others eyes...twinkling eyes...you know, and you feel that there is this unexplainable connection... wow! i think it would just be super to feel that and go very ga-ga of attaining that connection. Very idealistic, you may say, but it happens. though not for a lifetime kind of thing, but l;ove at first sights happen. Blind people i think have diff term for that..."love at first touch"?? :-) happy valentines!
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• Nigeria
10 Feb 07
Yes I do believe in love at first site.. however take time to get to know her better before you leap too hard. People put up their best to make a good impression for you and others during the initial beginning of a relationship. I cant say for sure if you are experiencing love at first site.. only you can answer that one.. Just give it all some time.. and take one day at a time. The real truth will come out after a few months or maybe even years.
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• United States
10 Feb 07
I believe in love at first sight. My hubby and I meet online talked almost a year as friends. When we finally meet it was love from that day on. We have been together 7 years and are stronger than every because of the way we did things. So I know love can happen in first sighting.
@skb369 (285)
• India
10 Feb 07
more than love,methinks its attraction at first sight. u cant really fall in love without knowing a bit more about a person than just their physical appearance. its been proven in a studdy that it takes all of jsut 2 seconds for people to form an opinion about others,so sparks flying at first is a distinct possibility but i dont think its in reality the same thing. you might develop a huge crush on a person on seeing them at first which might be confused with love,but the real thing(read love) can blossom only after you get to know a person.
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10 Feb 07
I cant say i believe in love at first site but i did have the most weird experience happen to me that me think twice i was in a pub and this chap walked in i was at the bar getting a drink and he was the other side soaked cause he had just come in from the rain. i looked over at him and caught his eye and holding the stare i walked over to him when i arrived standing in front of him i told him my name, he did the same and we kissed without even talking the feeling i had in my stomach was undescribable,i felt like i had known him forever. we seen each other every time i went out whether it be a walk on the beach, shopping, clubbing he was always where i was we never took it any further cause i didnt want to ruin that initial first feeling and low and behold i still go funny everytime i see him!
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I honestly don't think it exists. I think it's more of 'attraction at first sight'. Love is something that slowly develops, and I don't think seeing someone for the first time qualifies in it. I think it's more of like 'dejavu' .. Feeling like you've known someone for so long when in fact you've just seen each other for the first time ..
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@bunmi2501 (465)
• Nigeria
10 Feb 07
I believe we all need to understand that there is a big difference between love and feelings. Love is not a feeling, it is an action. It is built on trust, forgiveness, giving, sacrifice, committiment. These does not come at first sight, it is developed in time through communication and fellowship. Feelings do come and goes, but an action is what you do. So I dont really believe in love at first sigth.
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