Have you men ever raised your hand to your wife/partner?
By Evacuee
@Evacuee (1147)
February 9, 2007 5:58pm CST
This is in opposition to another discussion i have just started.
Have any of you men ever hit your wife/partner? If so why? Did it make you feel better seeing your other half in pain?
This is a quite serious item to discuss and I often wonder how a man could hit a woman even in anger.
However there are repercussions for somebody interrupting an assault like this but I have done so to my regret.
Many years ago whilst driving a truck late one night I saw a bloke beating a woman outside a pub so I stopped and went over to try and stop him. I was getting the better of the the guy, (I had done quite a bit of amateur boxing), when suddenly I got a punch on my back and a heavy object hit me on the back of my head. her handbag!! It was the 'wife' who had seen her 'man' being hit and was getting back at me. I jumped in my truck and drove off leaving her cuddling him on the pavement. I vowed I would never do that again.
But I still think hitting a woman is a very cowardly thing to do.
So how do you guys feel about this?
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4 responses
@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
My husband could squish me like a bug if he wanted to! I don't understand men that hit women. It's insecurity or something. Why pick on someone weaker than you are? The words coward and wus spring to mind immediately.
But what's with the women who put up with it? I have heard of cases like yours before. The silly women actually stick up for their abusers! Another form of insecurity I suppose.
I will admit that if my husband would ever try to take a poke at me I would gently remind him that he has to fall asleep sometime.
My boys would never dream of hitting thier wives either, this was taught to them by thier father and grandfather.
My dad's dad was a jerk. I have no fond memories of him whatsoever. My dad was the oldest boy in his family and at the ripe old age of 10 told my grandfather that he was not to hit my grandmother anymore. My dad took her beatings instead. I have heard this story from my aunts. When my grandfather finally passed away, I heard them say they were so relieved because now my grandmother could have a few years of peace.
My dad never raised a hand to me or my mother. I think he would have run through anyone that would have including my husband; who admitted to me years ago that before we got married my dad had a little chat with him. He was told that I did not fall downstairs or run into walls before I got married and that I had better not develope this habit after I was married.
I love my dad!!
@Evacuee (1147)
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10 Feb 07
I cannot understand how a woman can stay with an abusive partner, its crazy! But I suppose deep down they have this craving to change him but it never works, Theres always another beating round the corner.
I love your Dad too and for what he stands for. At least he lived through it and was not going to let it effect his daughter......good on him and I give him a lot of respect.
Thank you.
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
10 Feb 07
My husband has no interest in myLot, so if it's ok with you I will answer for him, seeing as I do most things for him. No, he has never raised his hand to me, not even attempted to. I wouldn't be still living with him if he did. He is the most easy going person I have ever come across. He never even gets angry with me, although sometimes I think he just doesn't notice anything, even when I blow his hard earned money on rubbish.
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@grinjaguar (571)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I never hit a woman. But indeed when couples fight, it is best not to interfere. What you did was just alright for that guy to realize to pick someone on his own size.
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