Do you ever wonder what your life might be like if you were not abused?

first, of all i can't believe that i'm responding to this that was posted 7 years ago! You see I'm just new here in myLot, like days ago. Anyway, talking about incest survivor, yes i did wonder before what my life would be like if i wasnt abused. im thinking things would be a lot easier. i would have finished college without stopping for a couple of times due to the fact that my memories of the abused became a conflict to my "identity years". i was warned by my previous counselor that that would happen but still i was caught in surprise. Those years were the most chaotic if i may say. so if i wasnt abused maybe i would have graduated with flying colors since i was consistent dean's lister before things got complicated. and maybe i would not have several failed relationships which all rooted to my trust-issues with men. on the other hand, im not sure what would be the things that might be the same. what made me to made it to survivor status? first i believe it would be thru my faith. my faith had always given me strength through those tough times. second would be my real and loyal friends who have never doubted my side of the story and supports me up to this date. third would be my desire to be an inspiration to others who are still experiencing the abuse. and lastly, i guess i made my future self also an inspiration for me to survive.