I have seen a few discussions on polyarmory. . .

I think that you'd all need to sit down and having a long, long, long talk about what everyone would expect in the relationship (and I'm not only talking about intimately). Is she open to being in a relationship with both you and your husband? My opinion is that to go into something like this, it's better if NO one in the circle of three is legally married. Then in case anyone got hurt or upset, no one could pull the well at least we're married card. No matter how close you guys are, when intimacy is brought into it, things change. You can still have a ceremony and all be married to each other, just not legally. If everyone is OK with it, then I see no problem with it. It seems like a perfect situation, you get your husband and your best friend, but things have a way of happening, maybe it would end up not working out. I guess you could have a "trial" period to see what would happen.

My thoughts-- as someone who HAS been part of a "triangle"-- is to sit down and talk this thing through with all three of you, before anyone "acts" on anything. TALK, till you're blue in the face, till everyone's fantasies and insecurities have been laid out on the table... and everyone feels "safe" to voice their authentic feelings. Poly relationships only stand a chance in an environment of absolute and open communication. If anyone starts hiding stuff, or "sneaking around," the whole cookie is likely to crumble. As for your friend, the vibe I am getting here is that perhaps you're feeling more of a parental/caretaking love for her, than a physical/romantic love?

I think you stand to lose two relationships if this goes awry. Your husband and your best friend could end up tossing you if you just give in to base urges and it goes sour in the end. I am not sure this would be worth the reward you are seeking.

well i think you got a good heart,but hink first before you do that love.

I don't take a moral stand about polygamy. But I will tell you this. It is Always best not to bring people you know well into the scene. What I mean is when the parties know each other feelings get involved and someone falls for someone else..This usually leads to the end of the primary relatiohsip. About you BF you asy she has been thru alot..Will she be falttered by you r advances or see it as an insult? as though you were pretending to be a friemd so you could come on to her. Just my opinion, find someone you do not know to swing with.

I have been in a 'triangular' relationship with brothers(still am in). It's tricky and if it goes bad - you're gonna lose someone. I would not do this with my best friend, unless you're willing to lose your best friend or your husband. A threesome is one thing, but a relationship with three people has to be given very careful consideration. You need to be absolutely sure this is what you want before you do it. There is no going back. Feelings get hurt, people become insecure and as easy as it is to think 'I can share..' Its not so easy once you cross that boundary.