What is a discussion?
By AndreaM76
@AndreaM76 (1164)
United States
February 9, 2007 9:37pm CST
*sigh* I've only notice a handful of people catch on to what a quality discussion is. A discussion happens between people expressing thier views. Okay, a discussion ISN'T replying once to a topic. It is comming back discussing within a post not making a whole lot of responses. Having 100 ressponses is good but having a discussion from responses is what it's all about. Try responind to your discussions and see what happens to your discussions and discuss the topic not just thank them for a paragraph. Anyone with me?
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
I fully agreed with you on this matter concern. In fact "discussions" simply means by interacting on certain topics within a group to discuss the issues concern but its seem that in mylot lot of users here were not actually for discussions but for their own ratings, earnings...some even just simply gave responses without going through the topics...I had found lots of discussions were actually in "Hit And Run" mode! Sometime I do found a quite interesting topics but when I responses to those topics I found that even the one who start the topics wouldn't come back to make any comments on his/her own discussions. The other thing just you did mentions on your topic which they only comments on "Thanks for your respond""Thank you""Thanks".....To me I will try to avoid those kind of users which I think they were not start the topics for discussions but only for ratings and earnings.
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
Me too was in the same doubts all the time..its really hard to get any real and meaningful discussions...I was telling this based on my about 7 months experience at mylot. Fortunately I still manage to get few good users whom I always can have quite nice interacting either on their or mine discussions:)To me I really found its a very interesting thing to do whenever I check back on any comments or responses by other users:)
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
good, we'll keep discussing this discussion but I will have to delay it long enough to get some rest. I'll pick up here tomorrow.
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Bingo again. It is hard to get actual discussion going here. I think of it like if we were all in one place together why would you join a discussion say one response and then leave before you get a response back to start another. I've tried over and over to get a true discussion going but I get left high centered.
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Yes, I agree with you. It is sad that sometimes, I will be waiting for an answer for a response that I posted on someone's discussion and they never get back to me. Also, I have noticed that several people do not even respond once to anyone that has posted to them. I have taken that as a warning to not post to them, because it means that they probably do not read anything written. I guess some people really don't know what a discussion really is, or they just don't care. Sometimes, it is disheartening to realize that I wasted my time on some discussions. It will take time to find out who the really interesting and committed people are.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Yes! you are one with out a doubt I've seen respond to a discussion. I know People don't have much time to respond to every post but at least respond to some and continue the discussion as if you are cnversating.I hope I was never one to leave you hanging much.LOL. Thanks for cueing in!
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@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
11 Feb 07
That is what can also discourage me, sometimes, it takes me a while to remember which page my response was on, other times, I just have to keep looking to see where it is. And then, there have been times, where I have forgotten which discussion it was that I had responded to, because some people write about literally the same thing as others.
@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I'm with you on this one. The biggest problem I have is when I try to go back and see if there was any answer to my response is that sometimes there are so many posts, that I can't find my response. I enjoy it when there is some back and forth. Thats how we can actually get to know each other. What I don't like is when someone gets on to blast a point of view, but won't back it up with anything or answer when you ask why.
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
This seems to be most peoples deliema. teying to find the discussion again. Maybe we need to mention this to myLot see if they can work with us on this.
@danjenkins (646)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Andrea, I tried to start a discussion on threading .. how it would lead to actual discussions .. as it stands, one cannot respond directly to a reply to a response to a discussion .. it looks like the response is to the first response rather than to the reply to the response! huh? See .. it is as hard to follow what I wrote as it is to follow a "discussion" on mylot which does not involve threading.
I think your concept is what the stated intention of mylot is supposed to be about, but it is impossible to have this happen without threading. Almost any other forum on the internet uses threading, so that a response is linked directly to the post being responded to.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I'm going to check your discussion out. I'm not experienced to other forums so I will have to check some out. It is really difficult here is the problem. it is hard to go back to a discussion but not impossible it just takes some work since it's not oraganized to really go right where you left off. It is better than it started though because when I first started there wasn't discussion catagories like there is now. I just go to discussions I've repsonded to ,to see if the person or anyone else replied to what I reponsed to but most of the time not. I just want to get people to realize if they make a discussion it leads to a quality discussion what myLot basis your earnings on.
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I seriously need to check out a different forum but I might not have time today to spend much time here I have some sick kids. So myLot could be easier to respond to if there were threads? I wonder why if most forums are set up to use threads and this one is not. I don't spend much time on the internet to know but I deffinately will find some thing to check out. What place you recomend in general?
@Lostinoz (145)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Dan, you are right in that it IS impossible to have a discussion without threading. When conversing on any subject we as individuals bring different elements to the conversation including personal anecdotes and opinions. If the conversation taking place revolves around discussing discussions and stays pretty much on topic and not drifting off on say farm animals or something it should be allowed. The way I see it, you brought a different element to this discussion and a conversation is taking place.
As for the rules, this post may be deleted, but I believe that this response is quite on-topic with discussions. : )
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@Lostinoz (145)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am definitely with you and I hope that I am not one of the guilty ones as I always try to check back on my responses and those of others. It may take me a while to go through them all, but I eventually get to them.
This may be an indication of the times we live in.
Everything is so fast-paced now that no one really takes the time to have an actual "real" conversation anymore. Alas, is the art of conversation lost forever? I hope not.
It kind of reminds me of that cell phone commercial where the dad is trying to keep the cost down and the family talks really fast on the cell phone and then hangs up. Respond to a topic and then move on as quickly as possible to the next one. Not everyone does that of course and I am grateful to have conversed with some very nice people.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I agree with you, Lostinoz. I think we do live in a fast paced world nowadays. I think the art of true conversation is getting lost in the shuffle. Think about when we eat for instance. I don't know of too many people who actually sit down to have the evening meal. When I was at home every evening meal the whole family sat down and ate and discussed what had gone on in their day. And that was a pretty good discussion to because I come from a family of ten. So in this site being formed I was a happy person because I am one who likes to open up a subject and get a variety of different opinions and toss them back and forth.
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Good point sunshine. everything is fast pace hurry onto the next thing. My son the other day asked me if we could eat all together at the table like they do on TV. It got me in the heartour table is only big enough for the kids to eat together so we are guilty of eating in the living room while they eat at the table. It is where true conversation started and now that traditon in America is getting lost in the shuffle and conversations are getting replaced by the TV.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Parents could learn a lot just by going back to the evening meal sitting at the table instead of having it in front of the television room. Seems to me that at least one time in a day families should sit down together to have a meal. It also bonds families together as well as hearing if there is anything going on in your children's life's. They might not come right out and say if there is a problem but by listening to them talk you can gather and later talk to them. Just a general conversation.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I know what a discussion is and like you said you don't get a reply on a response. This is not in every case. I myself love to respond to a discussion and love it when I get a response back. I think that makes a discussion interesting. To get ideas tossed back and forth. See what a person really thinks. It is hard sometimes but usually the first thing I do when I come here is go to the section that says discussions I have responded to and then discussions that my friends have started and then discussions I have started. Then I go from there. I will go back a few times on the different discussions that I have started and the responses I have made while I am on the site. I think this is a very good site but I think there needs some improvements to it.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Good, yes me too. I'm loving this because this is the looooongest I've gotten people to stay with me and respond and discuss. I noticed you are all over this topic which is good to me because it means I've put good energy into something people want to talk about. How exciting!
@casper20 (1463)
• India
10 Feb 07
yes i agree with you.but most of time i come to comment on my responses after responding.so there would be less time to stay online for me so i just say thanks and go.but from now on i am sure going to try this to see what happens.it is a good point you made here,in the beginning when i first joined my lot i used to think about this too.but then i got busy and got used to the method of just responding to a topic.this is a good discussion.i am surely going to try this out.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Seriously, I onlt responded to this discussion yesterday and nowhere else and today my earings were .27. I didn't spend alot of time here either because I have a sick family and had other things to do . it's true!
@ygkchaitu (387)
• India
10 Feb 07
You are right. But with so many discussions on the rise people seem to have forgotten the discussions they were into previously. Actually on my own discussions i have replied and tried to take the discussion further but when i checked back i was the last person to respons to the discussion. There it is.
It is not one person thinking that way but everyone should think about that.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
That's the whole thing, instead of sticking to a few discussions most of us are all over the place responding to many topics. Most people that come to this discussion had said the same ting more or less it's difficult to get right back to where you left of a discussion. maybe it's something wort mentioning to myLot.
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
10 Feb 07
Nicely put, i must say Andrea. Really people must understand the meaning of discussion is not just starting a topic and leaving it for just the responses but its about discussing with the person or people who responded for a correct way out of your problems and questions and thats why in the first place anybody starts a discussion... I learn't i long back and so should every body do as well.... responding or commenting on the responses to their discussion is a very important thing or else the responders will think they are talking to some air or something. And more over you must as well appreciate them for the pain they took in responding and the concern they showed while responding to your topic.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I like how you put it as well. There are genuinely great reponses all over mylot but most go unresponded. If someone is posting something more than just yeas you are right about that then they are really putting forth energy to your discussion.
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@spiderman05 (851)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
Personally, I read all the comments that people post in my discussions. When, I feel that a response is needed, I sure do. Though, I will not generally reply by a single thank you, unless the comment was outstanding and I had nothing to add to it, except thanking the author for her/his contribution.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I know what you mean. There have been some though that are like how do I repond to this? What is there to say? SOme just come and say yes you are right. This doens't lead to discussion.
@plumfoolery (38)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Since im a newbie. Im just trying to learn how to browse the site. Is there a way to see discussions that i have posted in so i can go back and follow up?
@karthima (111)
• India
10 Feb 07
Discussions means to talk and get th opinion of all. It bring a clear feedback , Discussion happens with minimum member of three. Discussion helps us to know the product better way.Services can be improved by the satisfaction level which comes out in discussion.
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