Am i a good father?
By seen7560
@seen7560 (238)
China
February 10, 2007 12:15am CST
I am 24 with 2 kids 1 girl and 1 boy both under 3 and i have no license, but i ride my bike everywhere it is my ride. i have a job at 9 $ an hour and i come home and clean the house every day i work swing shift, and have the weekends off. my girlfriend whome i have been with for 5 years and all the kids are ours, works on the weekends and i take care of the kids all weekend its not that i dont like it, but it is getting overwhelming for me and i feel like our relationship is falling apart. we have no free time to do anything, alone or together. i have not heard from anyone that i am doing good and to keep it up. i wish i could hear it more often by the people who are closest to me, but i dont and it hurts and it is harder to deal with everything and be a dad, boyfriend, friend, son, brother, and everything else i am going .... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr why why why???? ok i just wanna know?
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@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
11 Feb 07
You are a good father. You are doing more than what other fathers do. You should talk to your girlfriend and talk about chores and splitting responsibility. Once in a while, go out alone or with your friends, let her do that as well. Hire a sitter once in a while and go on a date with her. Family life and parenting is really tough work. You will need to unwind from time to time. Take it easy and don't stress out!
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@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
10 Feb 07
First of all, you ARE a good Dad. People probably don't say it because it is expected of you once you have kids.
When they are that young everything is harder. There is no time for romance or even a break unless you make the time.
Ask a relative to babysit one night every couple of weeks so that you and your girlfriend can have a night to yourselves. That's what my husband and I had to do just to keep us close. Otherwise life gets in the way and you start to resent it.
If you really need that pat on the back, ask your parents and girlfriend what they think of you as a provider and father. Better yet, ask you kids. They're the ones who see you shine.
@wrdsofwisdm (1069)
• United States
12 Feb 07
please check out profile and other discussions started by this member. Unbelievable
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@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Hey wrdsofwsdm,
Thanks for the heads up. I should have checked before responding. This guy is a WEIRDO!
@yueliu (1619)
• China
13 Feb 07
I have read ur post.I know u are a very good father.U want to make everybody happy.From ur post I know u are a very good man.I think the most impotant thing u should do is have a talk with ur girlfriend.Telling all the difficulties.U should be franker.I am sure she will understand.U want to make her and ur children happy don't u?So just let them know.
