what happened if you lie to your son for a long time?
By maijen
@maijen (2)
United States
February 10, 2007 2:30am CST
if one needs to do so, just to make things quiet and cool should we keep lying and cover our mistakes for as long as we can ?
it seems like the more I keep things to my own son about his own identity, the more I get this anxiety that someday he will soon discover the truth, and I have no perfect answer to tell him. But I guess we all have deep secrets and enivitably they do surface later on. what do we do then?
You can come-out and say the truth. But truth may cut you deep that you'll fear you may lose the son that you'd never had. Or you can just keep the truth under the blanket and live in a never ending fear of losing and breaking.
I believe, we only live once. Why not live and make the best of it, NO one is perfect. If there is, that would be a boring life to live anyways. Of course, you can be all honest and tell everything as they happen, but sometimes it aint that easy! ( you know what I mean, when you get there).
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3 responses
@thanzm (193)
• Qatar
10 Feb 07
It all depends on you and the son that u r talking about. How will he take it? And do u really have to tell him the truth? There is an old saying that goes "Hide the truth that tends to pain". So thats it, if you really want to tell ur son the truth do so. If you think it will hurt him and also that you can lie to him or that you can hide the truth effectively then go on lie. Lying in this case is not a sin or wrong. Just take that guilt feeling from your mind.
@maijen (2)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Im actually at the point where I don't worry as much about how the truth will unfold to my son. I know that when that day comes, he will understand. A biological dad doesn't mean he's the perfect person to raise a child. As long as your man enough to take the fact that the child is your son and you make him treat you like the real Dad, he will understand.
@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
12 Feb 07
This is very complicated to answer Sis hehe. But still, it's up to you. Follow what's the right one. Just don't be denial with yourself. If you know that it's something will go for good, then that's it.
In your case, a lot of peeps behind you knows everything. So I hope this will help you decide.
@nannacroc (4049)
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11 Feb 07
You have to make this decision for yourself. The problem with lies is that they lead to more lies and you need to remember exactly what you've said.
If your son is told the truth now, he may be angry, if he finds out the truth later he may be unable to forgive you and you may lose him.
Only you can decide what is right in your circumstances but whatever you do make sure he knows that you acted out of a loving desire not to hurt him.
