stay or say good bye
By abrundell
@abrundell (51)
Australia
February 10, 2007 2:46am CST
i have been seeing a guy for over six months. we have acted like we were in a relationship and done everything that you would do in a relationship except call it a relationship. well i want more and he said no he just wants to be friends.
question: should i stay or should i go???
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10 responses
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
You want more...
What is it that you want exactly?
Marriage and children?
In these days and age... you don't get married after 6 months. If you want more after 6 months... What will you want after being married for 6 years?
A relationship is not about what you want. It is about what the both of you want. Why does he have to be the bad guy... just because he won't give you what you want? There is no law which says that he has to give you anything.
You are both in this relationship to enjoy each others company. Why do you want to complicate things?
Should you stay or should you go?
If you did love him... you would not even have thought of asking this question. So you better go...
@abrundell (51)
• Australia
10 Feb 07
we are not in a relationship we are doing everything except calling it a relationship he doesnot want that. so now what do i do. do i stay seeing him or leave
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
Well... that is different.
If he does not want a relationship after six months...
You better leave him... as you are wasting your time.
If you leave... it will test his love for you. If he really loves you... he will change his mind. But you will need to leave in order to make him change his mind. He is just being selfish... wanting to have his fun without any committement.
@chrissymadam_simple (173)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I think you have to say Goodbye because you're only frustrating yourself if you'll force to stay. You better look for the right one who could love you in return. Don't let yourself wait in vain. I know it will be hard for you especially if you really love that person but you have to let go...if he can't hold on......
@kumarreddy (96)
• India
10 Feb 07
u should search some other to fulfill ur needs i feel u should say good bye to the guy who do not respect ur feeling
@etheljeah (98)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
i think you should go. a guy like that is not worth it of your love and sacrifices because he cant even fight for you and stand for what he feel. what you needed is someone he would have you unconditionally and we'll be proud of you no matter what..
@pusiket (1756)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I don't believe in a commitment without clarity. If the boy can not commit himself and just want some fun, then why stay?
@siddhupotluri (225)
• India
10 Feb 07
i think that u should leave him.. as he didnt give respect to ur feelings.. understanding is really important in any relationship..
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
actually love doesnt mean something more than relationship.dont you ask yourself why you ask him for something more than relationship? something that very important for girl ya you know? so, if you really want to stay with him, you better be holly!!
@Critter028 (77)
• United States
10 Feb 07
I am kiiiind of in the same situation...I have been seeing a guy for three months. I dont want an official "relationship" per say, I just want to know that someday, eventually, all this will lead to one. So I keep holding out because I care about him. I wish I could offer some helpful advice, but all I can do is tell you that I am going through the same thing, and it sucks. But if you are sure that all he wants is friendship and it will never be anything more, then find someone who wont waste your time and who will give you what you want. Why cant I just take my own advice? LOL
