Crackhead in the House

You did the right thing by taking that stuff out of your house, have you checked around the house to make sure there wasnt any that he tried to hide?

I can tell you from experience that I believe you did the right thing here. And, I'm sure it's working on your emotions alot in many ways, but know that what you did could very well have saved his life. Perhaps; just perhaps; he'll seek help while in jail. Rehab is usually an option (depending, of course, on the system and your area). Think of it this way you may have lost him; now; TEMPORARILY ..... but will gain him back PERMANENTLY ..... IF he chooses to get clean. Know what I mean? My hat's off to you for your decisions to consider your son first and foremost, and for initiating tough love and not becomming an enabler to your husband. As for your life now? Let go and let God! It's a simple concept, one that will help both you, your son, and your husband as well. God Bless, Vicki

no never encountered such a thing.dont worry wat u have done is exactly right

I am so sorry to hear this. God bless you and your husband and your son. I haven't lived with anyone who had the problem, but I have a good friend who has been in rehab several times for it. I've heard all of his stories. His mother is a good friend of mine and I've heard all of her stories about him when he was addicted, so I know it's a bad scene. Maybe your feelings are a combination of both things: disappointment in him and fear of what could have happened if it kept going. From what I know, sending someone to rehab isn't going to help in the end if they really don't want to kick. And sometimes, I guess, a person really has to hit rock bottom before they start climbing out of the hole they're in. You've got to take care of yourself and your child.

Good for you!!! It will take some time, but I know things will be better for you and your son. You don't need that jacka** in your life. Take care of yourself and your son. Surround yourself with some good family and friends for support.

you did the right thing trust me my step dad that stuff for years and it was around all the time its very stressful and its better to not have your child around that and you are right he was risking your child being taking away

I think that you have did the right think.It is horrible that sombody you love would put your life and your childs life at risk like that. I never had to deal with that, but i can image how it feels becasue I have 2 children myself and i will never put myself in that postion to lose my childre. They always come first. So dont stress it because if you still love him, in time he will realize what he did and come back. But it is up to you to decied if you want to take him back. Good Luck and Im on your side!

wow good for you for doing whats right. a lot of wives in your situation wouldnt do anything about it until it got too late. you were protecting yourself and your child. hopefully this will help him, but i dont think jail is enough. he needs to go through a program to get himself clean.

I haven't had to deal with this personally but I did want to leave you a comment. Congratulations for being a strong women and for sticking up and following thro with what you feel is more important! I give you credit because I dont believe that dealing with this is easy and you stand proud and know that you did the right thing..as it was regarding your son as well as yourself! If every women in this would had your courage...we would all be ok. Hang in there!

Honestly, I can't say I know how you feel. But I do want to say that I admire your courage for taking the right steps to protect yourself and your child. I think I posted this in another discussion before, but I want to say that God only gives a person as much as they can handle. And I think in this situation, He was testing you to see what you would do, and I think you did the right thing by indirectly helping him to get his life back on track. I know he may not feel like that right now, but I think in the long run, this will be best for the both of you. As to your question about pure disappointment in him or a subconscious bitterness, I have to say I think it's a little bit of both. I mean who wouldn't be disapopinted if something like this happened to them. And honestly, I think it's not just subconscious bitterness, but full blown bitterness because they placed you in a situation that you had to take actions you normally wouldn't have taken. And you have every right to feel bitter, but I would recommend you use all that excess energy and do something positive with it. Because being bitter will only hurt you, and what you need right now is to be stronger, and I hope that everything works out for you in the long run.

you simply did the right thing and just knowing that you have that strength to do the right thing should fill you with pride.

I have never had to deal with that, and I hope I never do. I think you did the right thing, especially since you have kids in the house. If he cares, he will straighten himself up. If not, your better off without him. Good luck!

I have never dealt with this situation before so I hope you don't mine my answering. First of all you have my sympathy. I cannot imagine sending my husband to jail but I also don't want to think what could of happened if this situation would have gotten out of hand. You could have lost your child and you could be facing jail time to if you knew this was going on. I know that this is going to be hard for you and your son. There are plenty rough days to come but then the sun will shine upon you again and things will get a little better with each passing day. Your son may resent you for doing this to his father at first b/c he is at an age where is father is a very important role model in his life yet he proably doesn't understand the severity of the issue. I think you have every right to feel every single emotion that runs through you. Whether it be anger, bitterness, hatered, hurt, or empathy. It will get better with time. Maybe this can help him get straight so it won't happen again. If he does get clean will you give him another chance? In my opinion I think he deserves one at least from the limited knowledge I have of the situation. Good Luck!!

You did absolutely the right thing for your and your son. Your husband is an adult and must live with the consequences of his own actions - he put himself in jail. You've helped your husband by trying counselling and standing by his side, it didn't work - it's time for him to stand on his own two feet and face up to his problem square on. He'll have plenty of time to do this now and you and your son can move forward in your lives and recover from the inevitable fallout. What you did marks you out as a strong-minded individual and a great mother - well done and the best of luck to you both.