Lost of a Child

my sister lost her 1 month old child 2 years ago and i was there when we rushed her to the hospital. back then i still dont have a child of my own, and i was really shocked when the doctors announced that there is nothing they can do to save the child. i got really mad at one of the nurse because i can see that she was trying to shut her eyes because she is sleepy while on duty! i will never forget that day, and from that day i begin to question the ability of some doctors...

Just be there for them, if they want to talk about it, then listen to what they have to say. Don't avoid them, that can be the worse thing you can do. I lost my baby daughter during the birth, it is very hard to go through alone. I found that I needed to talk about it with some people. I found some people didn't understand and said that "it was meant to be". That made feel terrible, I don't see how losing a child is "meant to be". After hearing that a few times just made me want to scream. Just be there to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on if they want to. They may need space or they may need support. It is hard to know what to say to someone in that situation, but just being there to listen can sometimes be the best help. I had one friend that didn't know what to say to me and she never spoke to me again. Please don't do that because it just hurts worse. I hope this can be of some help to you at this time. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

This is so hard. What helps is to first be there for them. you don't need to say anything, but hang out with them, and offer to cook them dinner, or bring dinner over, and offer to lcean their house or hire a maid. You can't say anything to make them feel better, so don't even try. Just be there and let them know that you accept them when they cry.