What would you do if you found out your father has another woman?
@ezdollarincome (217)
Philippines
February 10, 2007 7:06am CST
First of all, I don't want to share this in here. But I feel like I had to say share here so that some of you could give me some advise.
Recently I found out that my father has someone else other than my mom. I overheard him over the extension phone while he was talking to the girl. Since that I don't want to miss the details so I recorded their conversation on my cellphone.
My mom doesn't know about this yet and I don't know if I'll going to her or not. What should I do? I don't want this issue to ruin our family..
Please advise me
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3 responses
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
your not alone with that problem. My father and mother separated when i was still in high school because my father lived with other woman.Your situation is not as bad as mine. I know that your very much affected with that problem, coz iv been there. I almost destroy my life that time, but with the help of my friends, and God's guidance, I realize that life did not end their...
@ezdollarincome (217)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
You know they is not the first time that this issue comes back over again. The first one was they almost got separated because my mother could no longer take the fact that my father is putting so much money and time for the girl.
Everyone was devastated and disappointed.
Yes! friends and GOD is the one thing we can count on in times of confusion and feeling of desperation.
Thanks for the renponse..
@peachtabernilla (305)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
I really understand your situation because I have a friend whose parents are seperated because of an affair...as a son of your mom you have to be strong, especially in critical points of that sitaution...
not to make things more worst, I think you have to talk to your dad regarding that matter...tell him that it is a sin to commit adultery...let your dad decide who he would going to choose between your mom or the mistress...if he chooses your mom tell him to leave his affair with the mistress...if he chooses the mistress, I guess you have to be strong on what is going to happen next...
@ezdollarincome (217)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
Nobody can talk directly straight to my dad, even I could not make that one on one discussions especially this kind of issues.
I always tried my best to keep a strong standing, but in this matter I am not sure what could happen. It's a big shame that we are all grown up and this what he do. I am the youngest in the family and even my brother couldn't make an open discussions to my father regarding the issue.
My father is already 64 yrs old but his mind was still on the age of a teenager. Its like he feels way back on the 90's where he was still can get girls whoever she wants.
If no one tells him about this, I don't know what could happen, definitely will get worst.
My father always think he was right all the time, no one can contradict him. He cannot accept the reality, like his old for this. I know even if I told him he would not listen . But I will still going to try it. But don't know how to start.
Thanks PeachTabrenilla for the response.
@gracey_celine (106)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
As i first read this, i didn't have the urge to give any comments because this is a some kind of delicate situation since it involves ur family already but as a friend i feel the need to give just a simple advice.
I believe you are a strong person but being strong does not exempt us from feeling emotional pain. Healing starts in facing the problem with open conversation. I know how hard to converse with your father but just give it a try. I think in that way, your father would feel your concern for him and for your family. If you don't take the initiative? who would it be?
I know how deep the wound is in your heart now but if you continue to reminisce faulty things nothing will happen. Man your father is a victim also, we have no rights to condemn him on his actions because we too are not perfect, we commit mistakes sometimes. Yes we do fail, but it's up to us when we begin to rise again.
Start this by praying (-.-)
Hope this would make sense to you...
