Are you too picky while dating ?

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One body, one spirit, one hope: This line of scripture from Ephesians epitomizes what many singles seek in their romantic relationships. But it’s easier said than done, especially when you focus too intently on finding a person who can live up to your image of your one idealized perfect partner. The truth is, you can increase your chances of finding this kind of true love by abandoning your quest for perfection and taking up a search for real compatibility. Adopt a new point of view Get started by shifting your focus from your ideal mate to your ideal self, advises Steve Chavis, communications director for Denver-based Promise Keepers. “Discover who you are, and be at peace with yourself,” he says. “Enjoy being part of a community. Friendships based on shared values are the most fun and can turn out Adopt a new point of view Get started by shifting your focus from your ideal mate to your ideal self, advises Steve Chavis, communications director for Denver-based Promise Keepers. “Discover who you are, and be at peace with yourself,” he says. “Enjoy being part of a community. Friendships based on shared values are the most fun and can turn out wonderfully.” Quiz yourself If you don’t think you’re being too picky, consider a reality check. Take a closer look at how you decide whether or not someone is right for you. You might want to talk to your friends for their opinion. “I found myself immediately rejecting someone who didn’t meet every qualification on my list of must-haves,” admits Sally Rimer of Phoenix, AZ. “I was really judgmental until one of my friends called me on it. Now I try to get to know the person a little better before I make up my mind.” Focus on this fact You may think your litany of requirements is saving you from dating the wrong people, but you might want to think again. “In the super-charged, Red Bull-fueled world, the ability to make snap decisions is prized,” says Jim Weinstein, a Beverly Hills and Washington, D.C.-based life consultant. “After all, the faster we can make a decision, the more productive or efficient we can be,” he continues. “But the search for love shouldn’t be judged on its efficiency—rather, on its ultimate outcome.” what do u think?????