I want a dog, the bf doesn't
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
February 10, 2007 1:25pm CST
I have been wanting a dog for a while now. My fiancee and I live in a big 4 bedroom house, just the two of us and our cat Shadow. I am a dog lover too andwe have a big fenced in back yard. Still whenever I bring up puppy or dog he says flat out "No Dog". How can I get him to change his mind?
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11 responses
@mygreyparrot (1461)
• United States
10 Feb 07
It's probably best you don't force the issue. It would be a real bummer if he made you give up the dog. Maybe he's just not a dog person? It may be something you consider before you end up marrying him. Will it bother you to never have a dog? I know it would bother me, and I couldn't be with someone who was really against it.
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@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
17 Feb 07
He used to have a dog for years and had to put him to sleep. Every time I mention a puppy he smiles and tells he he is still mourning the loss of his dalmation. He also says he doesn't want our kitten shadow to get middle child syndrome between a bird and the dog.
@ilunice (946)
• Netherlands
10 Feb 07
I guess you may not be able to change him to like what he does not like. You are the person that may have to give up your love for dogs. Love is more of a compromise than any other thing: giving up you likes for the benefit of your patner. Happy weekend.
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@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
17 Feb 07
that is true one must accomodate and compromise with ones mate. If you are planning to keep the lover for years then there is time if we break up I will replace him with a dog!
@quatelmon (955)
• United States
11 Feb 07
My boyfriend is slightly allergic to dogs, and we have a dog. He doesn't really like dogs, but I told him that way back when we first started dating that I will always have a dog. It's funny. They fight with each other like brothers. My boyfriend teases him, and picks on him, but I catch them sleeping together and him petting the pup sometimes.
Let him know how much it means to you. Or, say what I say nowadays when he bothers me about the dog, "It's either a dog or a baby right now, which one do you want." :P Most likely, he'll go for the dog. LOL
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
17 Feb 07
That would be an empty threat I had my tubes tied over ten years ago so he would choose to keep working on trying to have a baby!
@blue_star8 (37)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Quatelmon, this is a funny reply! You made me laugh, thank you! :D I can just imagine the face of your boyfriend when you say, "...which one do you want??" Hahaha! That's really cute!
@pearl1003 (668)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Tell me something about your BF... Does he loves your cat? Well, if he really doesn't show much affection to animals such as your own cat, well, I think he's not a loving person. Maybe, he loves you not as much as you think he does. Psychologists say that animal lovers have the strong sense of loving humans more. Meaning, if your BF is one of those who doesnt like cats much and even dogs, or fishes, or birds, then he doesnt like people much too. Maybe, he doesnt love you at all... But i could be wrong... Maybe he simply doesnt like a dog because he's afraid that your cat might not like the idea of having a dog as its sibling. :)
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
10 Feb 07
you can't force him to change his mind. You can only ask him. You might want to cnsider babysitting a friends dog for a while and seeing if that might change one or both of your minds. A dog is a lot of work. Your fiance is probably afraid of that. Cats are easy.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
16 Feb 07
That is his reasoning. But the heart wants what the heart wants.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
17 Feb 07
cats are actually the more intelligent of the two animals although dogs are usually more fun than cats. Although you have never met my cat shadow. She is a straight up trip and is loads of fun when she wants to be. She lives stuck in attack mode.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
16 Feb 07
my husband was the same way, he said no way! they're just another bill and blah blah blah! so one day i saw this cute puppy stray in the middle of the street, so i took him to the vet, he's a shih tzu mix and he was 8 wks old no micro chip so i kept him! i kept a look out for lost signs of course but after 7 days he's legally mine so i kept him now he's 6 mos and so cute, my husband had no choice cause i found him for a reason! but not every 1 can be that lucky to find a cute stray puppy!good luck my husband still doesn't like him!
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
13 Feb 07
try to find out exactly why he does not want one. it could be because he is scared of dogs, or it could be that he is scared of the commintment that having a dog means. i find that taking care of a dog is like taking care of a child where as a cat is different because they are more independent.
@toyboxer04 (353)
• Malta
17 Feb 07
If the dog is not wanted by both of you, just don't get the dog at all. Dogs need a lot of attention, I dare say much more attention than cats. If you get the dog with your fiancee not wanting him, you will end up having to cover up for the dog for all the disasters they do when they are just little puppies. That will not be very easy for you because it takes about a year for them to calm down, and that is the least!
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Some people just don't like dogs. It would be hard to get him to change his mind if he is adamant about it. Also, you don't want to get a dog to have to end up putting the dog in the yard 24/7. What's the point of getting a dog then??!! I would say drop the subject for now. He may or may not come around. Maybe get another pet that you both agree on and like.
