Should FilAm children be bred the old Filipino way?
By spiedx
@spiedx (10)
United States
February 10, 2007 3:07pm CST
FilAm parents grew up differently in another world & time. Restrictions were abundant & freedom of self expression were limited.
1 response
@emarie (5442)
• United States
10 Feb 07
i mean they can. i'm a 4th generation and the traditions were a little lost. my grandfather was born and raised in the Philipines but didn't push that my grandmother raise my father a certian way, he actually had no care about it is even knowing anything about the Philipines. i would figure he had a reason, but i will never know. i think some traditions should be kept, but its really up the parents. i've heard of some from a friend who's grandmother enforces some traditions. There was one i thought was weird, you weren't able to take a bath on your Birthday...and you could only bathe on certian days of the week. this is what she did to my friends daughter since her mother was a traditional fillipino type person.
@spiedx (10)
• United States
10 Feb 07
That's what makes the Filipino way of life unique. Each region, province or culture maintains their own ethnicity. Beliefs & traditions differ from each other too. Superstition is also a key factor. I believe not taking a bath on your birthday and on Holy Friday falls to these category!
Seriously, when we were kids, we were prohibited to talk while adults engage in a casual conversation. And we have to move out of the area where they are. This is just an example.
I don't have to restrict my kids as they know when & how to express themselves.
Thanks for your comment!
@emarie (5442)
• United States
10 Feb 07
yeah some of them are good ones and some of them are understandable. i know there was one my mother said she had done to her and it was a filipino tradition but i though was pretty damn nasty was that on a girls first period she was supposed to wash her face with her bloody underwear. i never wanted to do it, but my mother mobbed me in the shower with a soaped up panty!!! that was a horrible experience for me and thats something i wouldn't pass down. i'd admit, i don't know that many tratitions, i don't even know what dialet my family used to speak or what region they were from. this information wasn't freely given to us and when i asked my mother, she never knew. but i do believe in keep certian customs or at least having the knowledge of your ethnicity. thats what i do want to teach my children. they have a large grouping of ethnic background since i have 5 different ones in me and my husband is full japanese. i grew up surounded my tratition, but of course kids will tend to not want to learn about ALL of it. i know a lot from my other sides like Chinese & hawaiian but not much from the Filipino side, even though i'm mostly that.
@spiedx (10)
• United States
11 Feb 07
The aforementioned experiences are totally new to me! I never heard these incidents before. No offense please, but I'm beginning to wonder where your folks originally came from in the Philippines.
One thing I want my children to practise & learn is to respect the elders & other people, assist the needy, call or notify your parents where you are, etc. These Filipino traits can be passed on!
Thanks again for your comment.
