My ex-husband messed me up for life!

holy yikes!!!! Yes that is a bad experience! How long ago was it? I think you need a bit more time before thinking of geting involved. You need to be wary of who you choose. hoepfully your experience with your e made you more aware of listening to and heeding warning signs or red flags.

It's really difficult to tell what will come out of any decision we make. When you and your husband decided to get married, I'm pretty sure everything was in order to build your own happy family. You were disillusioned with what you uncovered as regards the affairs of your husband. Nonetheless, life goes on and you are coping fine. Do not rush into any relationship. You are right about having doubts about men, but some women are into this kind of activity, too. Since you are an honest and true to one man woman, the right man for you might come much later on. You'll just simply find him without having exerted any effort to meet him. He'll just come along. This time, study him thoroughly so as to avoid committing the same mistake.

Well look at the bright side, you can't do any worse with the next guy ;-)

Wow, well that's a lot for a girl to handle. he did put you through a lot. My advice would be to chill for a while and just get yourself together, you know, take a breather from men. Once you get some time passed by, you may just want to give it a try again. I know there are plenty of wonderful men out there, don't give up!

There's a statement that's always written in bold letters when you look at a prospectus for an investment, like a mutual fund: "Past results are not an indication of future performance." I think relationships are a lot like that-- it's easy to project our old (and negative) experiences onto the present and future. Of course it's easier said that done. I can *logically* reason my way through the fact that whomever I am talking to right now has NO relation whatsoever to the idiot I talked to yesterday, but getting past the *feeling* or *fear* that it might be so is a little harder. I like to think of the past as a teaching lesson. There are no "failures" in relationships, just "lessons." And it sounds like you've certainly had your share... but you still have every opportunity to get it right, next time around.

i wouldnt say i blame you.... but when u hit rock bottom d only way der is left to go is up!!!

You were hit with alot from that marriage, so to feel the way you do is very normal. For the time being, take care of yourself. Learn to enjoy being single, and caring for yourself. Get together with friends, start a hobby. As you know we can never predict what the future holds for us, so while you say no more men, don't worry about that. If and when you meet another man, take it slow. The neginning of a new relationship is always nice, and the good ones stay that way. But for the time being, just enjoy. :)

I can't blame if you feel like that. But life doesn't stop there, you have to move on. Open your heart and love will come.

Wow, you really had a lot thrown at you. It's a lot to handle all at once. Take your time as far as going out with other men is concerned. Give your heart time to heal, and work your confidence back up. Out there somewhere is the right man for you. I believe that one day you will be happy again.

There are good men out there. Don't let one bad man ruin you for life for other men. I know a lot of wonderful men, I am married to one. There was a time when I felt like you but then I found a wonderful man. If you keep your heart opened you will find one someday too. If you meet a man and he turns out to be a loser you don't need to stay with him, dump him like a hot potato, the next guy might be the right guy.

Sorry to hear about your trouble. I went through the same thing only it was my wife and she is now a lesbian. However if you are messed up for life that is a personal decision. I am re-married to a wonderful woman and have a great relationship. I made the decision that no one else would determine the outcome of my life and went to some counceling. After many visits I determined that I would not judge all women by the actions of one, that I had been married to for 26 years. My advice to you is seek some help and support and then live your life by your standards and values.