People-How direct are you when conversing with others?

I'm more of a straight forward person. In most cases, I think 'sugar coating' something is just beating around the bush. I've noticed that no one takes you seriously until you give it to them straight. At least then they know EXACTLY what you're thinking. Personally, I prefer people to be straight forward to me, too.

I'm pretty straight-forward. Usually I tell a person what's on my mind. But I like to do it in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings. Sometimes I'll even do it in a joking manner just to soften the blow. But I'm not the type of straight-foward person that will say things just to hurt people. I don't think that's a good way to be when conversing with people. I'm usually pretty down to earth and I like a good conversation. I tell it how it is, and I expect others to do the same.

i can only be direct, i know no other way. It gets me into alsorts of trouble but i honestly dont know how i can help it, i just open my mouth and out it comes whatever on my mind

Well i guess you can say i am a sugar coater because i am always cautious about other peoples feelings. I have no problem with people being straight forward but if someones intention is to belittle me or to pry in my business then that is an issue. Some people are darn right BOLD. I have had people ask me the most personal things and tried to make me feel inferior. Some people can be extremely bossy and im am learning to be more assertive in dealing with people.

fairly direct but i do measure the situation/peopel accordingly

I have always been a believer in the idea of there being a specific way in which to speak to people. It often depends on the situation that one is presented with. I'm in sales, my rule of thumb for day to day communication in life is that unless something has gone south, all is well and good. It also puts things into perspective for me. The more comfortable I feel, the easier it is for me to communicate with the world. - This was a good topic mzbubblie, nice 1 :)

well i am a straight forward person and i speak out anything which i feel is right.i hate beating ariund the bush to get the message.what i say may be harsh to others but the truth is always bitter and when one faces the truth they may not like it.i see to that i dont hurt anyone intentionally but when it comes to the truth i do tell it out.there have been so many times where people say i am rude.but i still try not to go in round abouts to tell a person how i feel.

Umm...i tend to bite by toung alot...i dont want to hurt anyone's feeelings....so i wont...even tho i feel like it....but im a nice guy...and thats good enough wit me...i dont need to hurt some one juss to make myself feel better!

I tend to be outright blunt sometimes as well. A habit that I'm really trying to break. I always try to remember.. it's never what you say but how you say it. you can say the meanest thing but if you know how to say it pple wont get offended. it is a skill that needs practising..I always try to put myself in the other person shoe before responding to anything, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't and sometimes it's just better to agree to disagree :)

I admire you for your directiness, I think it's a wonderful quality, as long as you do it without anger (well, a little anger may be warranted at times), and you do it with respect. Alot of folks get upset with diretness because it touches a nerve in them, or a truth about themselves they don't want to face, or they just don't have a sense of humor, and take things way too seriously. I have a hard time being direct, I'm in illusion that if I'm all sweet and complimentary all the time, even when it's not warranted, people will like me. It dosn't work that way. I guess there's a fine line between being direct and honest with people, and being downright negative and discouraging...somehow being honest with a person or people, yet, at the same time, not making them feel like idiots (even though they may be, in which case, do you just come out and tell them that with a smile?) Well, there is the art of "honest tactfulness" of which I know little about. But I would not worry about your directness, don't change that, I think it's great.

like you I am direct I always say if you dont want my honest oppinion then dont ask What is the point of sugar coating something when I am supposedly speaking with an adult??many folks dont like this and I guess this is why i dont have a lot of friends ,but the ones I do count among my friends seem to like the honestY

I think people who speak what's on their mind directly is so truthfull and good at heart. But we never think that somehow it hurt others. But anything we should speak or express our opinion in the right situation only. I mean that if we speak like that to elders or stange peple they'll feel that we are so irrespectfull. so think before you speak. there is a tone of speaking according to the person it listens.

Ok heres what I usually do when I post: 1. Get to the point and anwswer short and directly, but very simply. 2. Give information to support my comment. 3. Restate my final answer as clearly as I possibly can. Ex: I also admit I'm quite direct. Sometimes I can use more comfortable terms for some of the more fragile minds out there, but mostly I'm rather direct. I usually speak what comes to mind, or dont say anything at all. Although in tough situations I have made a habit of playing out the situation in my head before hand. Once I find a result im satisfied with I try to steer towards that in the actual conversation or event. And just incase the conversation or event does not happen as planned, I always have a few back up situations all ready to go. Also to answer your last few lines, I too have to interact with people that don't like the answer you give them. Personally I believe that they want to hear something, and if you dont give it to them, they throw a pity party. Maybe I'm wrong, its hard to say, considering you cant ask people like that... I try to give a polite, and more gentle answer to someone like that, but as we both know, that is often difficult. But my advise, a few more seconds with the "thinking cap" on doesn't hurt anyone. Usually the bigger the problem the more time granted to answer. Although some people expect you to have already thought on the problem. (I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT!!!) I have learned to keep a few very general words up in the old tin can, just incase some one puts a tuffy out there. Although the best advice I can give you is, follow your heart. And besides if someone takes something personally, that isn't that big of a deal, they either have problems or will get over it.

I think people tend to get defensive & personal if you get too direct, whatever the topic of conversation might be. You might not mean any harm but its taken as a personal attack by most. I find its much easier to say things diplomatically. That way you can actually get them to agree & have your cake & eat it too.

it depends. if im comfortable with the person/people im talking to, i go straight to the point. sometimes, i get the impression that im tactless. sometimes i comment quickly,only to realize that i might have offended some people around. but it's really hard to keep what's on your mind, i mean especially if it's an issue that is affecting you.

Yes I am very striaght forward in my conversation with others. I don't say things rudely, but what I see and what I feel, I tell them, I think it is better to be true critic, rather than being false praiser. I think criticism give people chance to improve and realise their negative points and give them a opportunity to turn better human beings.I think you are just fine, may be people may not like your attitude in the starting but later on all will be well. If you think you are right, just be as you are. But if you feel your words are really going to hurt someone deeply, try to say you point indirecly so that person is not hurt at the same time he also understands what you want to say.

i also a direct person and always would lke to giv a direct comment to my friend.. mayb sometime i m hurting them but this is all the word from my haert.. i will be direct when deal with my dearest friend only..

I'm always straight to the point and honest. Not everybody might like me, but at least they know what I'm about.

I must say that I am a step further.When i feel that the other person is beating about the bush or is trying to manipulate me I look him straight in the eye and answer the question in his mind...the one he meant to ask to actually. This sometimes places them in very awkward situations & they get upset.But i cant bear people trying to play it smart with me.If u got somthing to say spill it.Thats my attitude.But if he or she is being really polite and i know i may hurt feelings needlessly then i stay away from making such remarks or i sugarcoat them.At the end I should say that though being direct is the best form of communication most dont have the guts to take it all.So if u dont need to care about the other person theres no need to cover acid remarks with smiles.Let them burn.But if they concern u i feel its best not to cross the line and u should try to express ur feeling without hurting theirs.

well, in my opinion, i am in the same position just like you. Many people are not used to speaking or doing directly, for they may not face what the matter really is. For themselves, they are afraid of mistakes mentioned by others. To be honest,this is unnecessary. We should show our everything to everybody around us , the more , the better.