Instant Family

well ex's can be tricky and when there is a kid involved it can only be trickier. my husband married me and i already had a child but the dad is no where around so it is different. we have been together sicne she was 14 months old and you cant tell that she is not his. we have child together as well and you cant tell a differnce which is great. hard to find that. but when i was with my ex he had an ex wife and omg. she was out there. she called the cops on us when we were at a hotel saying we were partying and giving kids drinks lol. the cops came it was bad. of course we were not we were just having well you know. she ran me off the road once. it was really messed up. they had a child togehter so we couldnt tell her to jump in a lake. it was hard but we made it through. just hang in there it will greta better. it may get worse first but if he loves you and you love him you will find a way.

It is hard to love a child who is not your own. But there are good step mother. I hope you will take her as your own. If you love someone your love can cover up his shortcoming. Good Luck

Let me say that I have some experience in this matter. As long as you are married to someone and you get the instant family thing going, you will have problems that must be resolved. The longer you keep the problems, the harder they are to be removed. Make sure you do not judge too swiftly and be very supportive of your husband. If he makes a mistake in your thinking, but he does not think so, then seek counsel from your Church leaders. Many times you have to let some decisions pass but your family is the most important thing in the sight of God. Respect your Husband and treat his ex wife with grattitude. Hope this helps and welcome to the Mylot.com group.