How do you keep yourself attractive both physically & mentally to other people ?

We're all different and I can honestly say that I couldn't care two hoots about private messages! I can't see what physical attraction has to do with this site anyway, as no one knows what you look like. As others have said, if you're confident in yourself, the rest will follow. I'm nothing special to look at, but I'm told my personality more than makes up for that (not sure how, I think I'm a miserable git) and it doesn't really bother me anyway. To me, the most important thing you can possess is a healthy sense of humour. If you can laugh at yourself and your problems, you'll get by ... somehow.

Well, let's see...your last three questions in the last sentence I can wholeheartedly say no. Why? Because those things are not interesting to me. I don't always get out to see my friends--I work at home while they work in other areas. Our differences make us interesting. Many of my friends have been in my life 18 years or longer (with many of my closest friends 25 years or more!). Don't focus on messages in your inbox (I've gotten 3 from nice people and 1 selling me something and that's it!) I focus on one thing about myself that I wish to change each year and it's something that gave ME pleasure and happiness. Love yourself first and everyone will come after!

you're not the only one who feels that way. We're in the same lonely boat. I try to be the best in everything I do, but for the most part, i blow them one way or another. So i made this box at the back of my head which says stop dreaming and move on like nothing ever happened. My mind recedes to the place when I think I can't take all the hurts and pains anymore. I don't expect. I'm always on the other side of the cafeteria, looking on at cool people who don't notice there's something amiss in the interior designs. lol.

Be confident in yourself, love yourself, and don't worry about what everyone else is focusing on. It sounds like to me that you're trying to hard to be something or someone you're not and people pick up on that.

I don,t think you need be worried when you don,t receive messages either from friends or on mylot As that does not not imply that you are nolonger interesting to people or friends.Keep doing the things that you know how to do best and forget about comments that you may receive from folks Although you have to keep moving mentally by embarking on things thst will interest you whether it be watching the latest movies reading epic novels writing poems or visiting family friends.please dont be bordered by the lack of messages.

You'll have to be true to yourself, it should not be pleasing other people but its more on pleasing yourself, if your not yet confortable to yourself, it is not possible for you to be effective or should i say endearing to other people, Being attractive physically and mentally is a state of mind, if u think that you are not attractive, then you are.. but if you think that you are attractive, then even every moves you make, and the way you think will be prompt your mind..and prompt your whole being to follow..Set your mind into positive, there is a power on it, Ok im not always positive, i must admit, but i just realize that being positive, can make your face glowing, if people notice it it will make you smile..and vice versa.. here in mylot, if somebody share some response, try to say thank you, don't mind the extra penny, but you see we can make this mylot as a tool to create a better world..Smile..

You've got to believe with yourself. Believing in yourself will make you confident about everything. Yes it is good to keep yourself also updated with the latest news, technology, etc. that is happening not only in your country but in the whole world. This will make your response more meaningfull and hopefully people will notice this.

just be urself n dont bother abt people what they think abt u if u think abt the people then u'll loose ur confidence level. if u keep ur confidence level high then u'll automatically look attractive in both physical n mental sence... try it it'll surely work.......

I think most important here is to NOT think you have to be on everyones goods side. Take it from one approval addicted person who wants everyone to be happy with her! I am trying to learn to not be so. But in the mean times its hard. I have found if you instead of wanting everyone to be interested, find a few great friends who find you interesting a lot. They are your people who will be interested in you all the time. Trust me test it out in person and you can see it. Try to talk about yourself, problems you dont mind sharing, etc and see how they react. True friends will listen and give thoughts if needed. Not so true will look at you like you are crazy OR they might listen but not really care to act interestd. I've noticed both. I know the difference usually. I'd never pour out my heart to just anyone but just those I feel close enough to that care enough about me and think I am interesting. How do I stay attractive physically? Make up, cute shirts and hair styles. Mentally I try to read books, keep up with the news (even if its just celeb stuff I totally love!), and be interesting in what others are thinking, doing, believe, etc. Be interested, they will be interested back. Hope this helps you out :)) Btw I usually dont get many replies to my discussions. To my dismay! I think the most I have had so far (I didnt check yet today) was 8 replies. One got zero and one or two got just ONE. So yeah its alright :D

to be attractive means that other should feel proud to be associated with u. FOR this u need not have good personality but u need to use tur personality in best possible way. also speak about the topics that others enjoy or want to listen like jokes current affairs. always initiate an interesting discussion and then let others speak this will not only improve ur knowledge but others will enjoy being with u as their point of view is being heard. also dont remain totally silent let others listen to u too.

I think you should start by accepting that not everyone will find you both physically and mentally interesting.. and so, you should just be yourself.. you can also try to be interested with other people and their interests as a way of enhancing yourself.. but don't try too hard.. people are always attracted to sincerity.. I think we all go through that stage when we feel noboby notices us.. but we always have to keep trying..

I think the best course of action is to not expect life to come to you, you need to go to it. Make a list of things you like to do, or would like to try, find out how you can do these things in your local community and go and do it. Or if you can't do these things in your local community then take a holiday and go and do it. I always think, the more experience somebody has, the more interesting they become as they have stories to tell, opinions to express based on actual realities they have experienced. Going out and doing things you enjoy not only gives you this advantage, but also means you will meet people who like doing the same things as you. Which gives you a great potential to meet new friends and network into new groups of people.

When people lose confidence all negative feelings starts pouring in and make us more depressive.So the first point is don't lose confidence.Secondly, keep a big smile on your face while meeting people. Don't take your life so seriously,lead a very casual way of life.Forget about the past and future and try your level best to concentrate on what you are doing now.Last but not the least, don't become football of others opinion!!!!

I'm not into follow the latest fashion or something else like that. I don't need to become somebody else to attract the other people. I just follow my intuition. I just trying a brand new style of hair, buy clothes that I think it'll match with my style. Then I wait for their response. If their response is positive I'll keep it going on. It's the way I am.

i dont think there's a secret to be being both physically and mentally attractive to others, and most people have different ideas of what attractive is. i think there are a few things you could try to be or at least feel more attractive. one is personal hygiene and maintenance. just make sure you are clean. make sure your clothes dont look like you pulled them out from under your bed. dont leave your hair a huge mess, unless that's the look you're going for. you dont necessarily need makeup or a different hairstyle, but it couldnt hurt as long as you know what you're doing. the most important thing is to be confident in your look, no matter what. if you dont like what you see and you exude that to others, then they will also not like what they see. as for mentally, i dont think its necessary to keep up with fashion or entertainment or technology. you just have to know something about something. what are your interests? if you are interested in something, its almost certain that someone else will be interested in the same thing. it wouldnt hurt to keep up with the news as well. just be confident in what you say...and try to have an opinion. if you sit back and just nod, you wont really be attractive to someone else. you need to make sure you know or at least seem to know what you're talking about and are genuinely passionate about it.

I think good behavior has big importance to attract every one, and always confident, try to clear your mind and don't create misconceptions, you will able to attract other. thanks

I stay fit. Exercise is the key to be sexy and confident. then I read books, stay tuned to fashion and current news at the same so i would be knowledgeable to everything.

Don't worry, there is still room for improvement. sometimes people get attention by some alluring or convincing words or draft of pictures. Since it's all about marketing then you could try be different and creative. Observe what makes discussions a hit and you could improvise. It just needs perseverance and creativity. be patient and strive hard for who knows if you have. but what is important is that you enjoy what your doing

Interesting question... I think I've reached a point (or age?) in life where I really don't care if I am interesting/attractive to anyone besides the people who find exactly who "I simply am," as I am, interesting or attractive. Whew... major run-on sentence. I guess my point is, that I am really not interested in putting effort into trying to be something I am NOT, just to be "popular" or "interesting." If I am "faking it," and people think I'm cool based on that fake front... they'll end up really disappointed when they find out what's behind the facade. So why bother? So, to answer your question... I don't do ANYthing, other than try to be fully engaged in those things that appeal to me. And if that appeals to someone else, and they want to be my friend... well, VERY cool. And if not, that's fine too.

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