my sister is leaving tomorrow for abroad, to work and its so painful and sad...
By vehaileairu
@vehaileairu (2286)
Philippines
February 11, 2007 10:40am CST
just to compensate everything, my sister will have to venture abroad, she will be in contract for 2 years and so on.. shes a registered physical theraphist.. im so into this loneliness.. she is the closest person ever near my heart, she is the person who listens to me and all the things you can imagine.. and i really love her but i must be glad for she will be doing this to help me and make her life into the fullest.. i dont know how to deal with this, i feel so sad and lonely.. i cried whole night. if only i have the chance to get hold of everything, we wouldnt depart this way.. all i want is her presence but i cant have this way forever so i have to set the possibilities, but its hurting..
shes gonna work and i must be of joy, but my heart is in pain, pls help me open my views, so i wont ever be in this dilemma feeling.
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33 responses
@davaoguy (319)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I guess that's for the best. One of the most saddening thing is when your loved one needs to leave home. Don't worry because you'll meet again definitely. Just be positive and expect that in the future you could both have happier times than ever before.
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
thank you so much. i gave you plus..
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@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
So, you mustwork extra hard at school so you can also get a goodjob overseas, In North America we need people in any medical field. We ar so short of doctors and nurses, some hospitals have to turn away patients and send them to other cities, sometimes thousands of miles across the country. There aren't enough xray and MRI techs to take the proper tests and people are waiting up to 6 month for a referal to specialist doctors. Take any of the medical fields in university and come to Canada where both you and your sister will be very welcome.
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@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
i am so touched... i gave you pls the thing you suggest is so good and what i need to be heading in the future... im glad you listened.
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@shana123 (2095)
• India
12 Feb 07
dont worry sister i can understand your feelings,dont worry... your sister will be bck soon..., see if your not sending off her happily will not worry??? she will only think of and she is going to job that to a new place and new surroundings,you should give boostful words to your sister... you should not cry for such things,see its your sister who is going for work(if you love her a lot and you wanna her to come up in life then dont cry atleast pretend to be)if you be like this then she will cry a lot ... lot more than you,,, i cant explain more briefly than this... i will pray for your sister happy journey!!!!GOD BLESS YOU BOTH:-)
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@rozebara (139)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Dont be so sad, infact you must be proud of her coz shes the person you know who had a good intention too move up, all you had to do is pray for her success and be happy. Your problem is just u gonna miss her, but right now theres a lot of things to do so you can easily have constant communication using by many gadgets like internet by using that you can feel thats she still around, you know i admire you for being such a good sister keep it up you must be a good example to all the readers of mylot... Godbless You my dear
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@mridula123 (734)
• India
12 Feb 07
ok..she's on a contract for 2 years..just remember nothin in life is permanent..you would have to accept it even if she had to leave forever, i mean for the job..I understand its very sad and its also hard to see her when she's on the contract..but console urself by reminding that she's doing the best thing she knows..she's on service..like someone said, medical facilities nowadays is very necessary, and just remember that your sis is just adding to the community of life savers..you have to be proud of ur sis..anyway..sit tight for 2 years..your sis will be back and you can make up for the days you lost!!:)
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@dubaimt (273)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Feb 07
i understand the feeling.. my sister left too for abroad to work as a PT and i nearly cried my eyes out .. she too was my closest ally and we had these dreams together.. but know what? she has to live her dreams too, i said to myself. and when she fulfills her dreams, she then can help me fulfill my dreams. and it is! we havent seen each other for more than 10 years and the way we had conversations over the phone, over the internet, is just not enough but the eagerness just mounts up that i cant hardly wait to see and hug her again. so keep the faith! be happy for her success as it will be more harder on her to leave when she sees you sad. God bless!
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@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
those are the words i kept on telling myself, although every word you shared makes me cry, im just so touched because you have the heart of this situation and you have understood my side, experiencing sisters, sharing the same dreams and the only ally.
thanks..
@phon4u (2215)
• Laos
12 Feb 07
After living together for a long time, it is very hard to move to another place. I feel sympathy for you and your sister to be apart. We have to do based on the job or different task and different place. But your sister and you can contact by phone and find time more at least once a week to meet each other. You can enjoy talking and writing on myLot with other members, you will forget your time with your sister later or sooner.
@abagslife (1212)
• Italy
11 Feb 07
Will she have an Internet connection there? If so, you could stay in touch everyday by Skype :)
@samimkardar (828)
• United States
12 Feb 07
U r rite, It is really difficult time to go away from our loving family members. Both feel lot of pain but we would realize that he/she is going away for better future and our future is also connected from the betterment of her/his future.
@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 07
Don't be sad girl. It happens. She will return right? It's always hard when a sibling has to live. I have two younger sisters and when both left to study, it got kinda lonely too. Suddenly, I didn't have people to talk to at home; I didn't have anyone to play scrabble with, I didn't have anyone to order about or argue with. My second sister, she never did come back. Gained her PR elsewhere and stayed there instead. I've not seen her in a while now. When she was back, I was elsewhere so I didn't get to see her last year :( But hang in there, it will be okay *hugs*
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@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I can tell you you should be happy for your sister, but the fact remains you will miss her.
You can try to keep in touch thru emails and thru letters and phone calls.
Maybe you cna plan a special going away party, then a special return party?
And maybe you could save some money back and take a surprise trip over to see her, sometime while she is there, that might be fun and something to look forward too.
It is good that you have a sister that you really like and get along well with.
That is a blessing.
I hope you will alwasy get along so well with your sister.
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@georgied (5)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Don't worry! I left the Uk 9 years ago with my husband to live in the US. I had no friends at first and missed my family, but it was an adventure and now we have made a wonderful life here. I still miss my family and friends at home, but with the technology today it is sooo much easier to stay in touch (especially with e-mail). I definitely feel like this is home now and have many new friends. Be happy for your sister and the positive things she can bring to you through her experiences.
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@edsflorida (112)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Stay in touch with her. Get her email address, phone number, etc. Write emails to her or talk to her on the phone while she is abroad.
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@cicerone (95)
• India
12 Feb 07
Certainly I do feel that it is a painful situation,I am a software Engg and when I had to leave my home,I pain I felt was horrible...
People living away from each other build a lot of love for each other and realize their importance only after they are away from one another..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Feb 07
this is true. being away from each other makes the relationship grow stronger. you'll hold on more to hope and you look forward all the time to the day you get to see that person again.
@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I feel so bad for you, my heart too would break if one of my sisters moved so far away. I guess the good thing is with all this new technology you can still talk to her as much as possible. There is somthing call "Skype" it is a free service that allows people to make phone calls across the world using their computer. Maybe you guys can use that to talk since I am sure traditional phone would be expensive.
Don't be so sad though that you don't follow thru on what you need to do. Keep going to school and work hard just like the first person said and then maybe you guys can rejoin again.
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@pix_trix (447)
• India
11 Feb 07
well, i completely understand your feelings. i have my real bro abroad too. he went there for his studies 5 years back, finished them and has been working since a year! i dont know when he would be back. i feel the same loneliness, but i know its all for the good. if he works there, its good for him, good for his future! being alone is the smallest sacrifice we can do to make their futures better, infact, he feels more lonely there, since all our family n friends stay here. though i really wish he comes back soon, but not at the cost of his career! i would give you the same advice! :) its all for her good! be strong!
@dadasupreme (40)
• Malta
11 Feb 07
time makes everything feel better. I know that you must be feeling terribly lonely but do not worry too much. It does get better. The beauty in humans is their ability to adapt to new situations. Goodluck and remember that she will be visiting in holidays and the world is not as big as it seems. You can be anywere in the world within a few hours.
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@sreenuhero1 (36)
• India
14 Feb 07
oh this is very unfortunate to live alone although you are having sister . be glad because your sister was going to abroad .you are very proud to have such sister..i am also having sister she is the best friend of me in the world.i leave her because of studies
