Should every woman have children, just because she can?

United States
February 11, 2007 12:14pm CST
I have no children and don't want to have any children. It seems that I am treated like I'm a lesser person simply because I have no kids. Is it weird to not want children?
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12 responses
• United States
11 Feb 07
No you're not wierd for not wanting to have children. My aunt don't want to have children either,She like's being able to help her sister out with her children taking them on trips,financially,holidays...ect. Everyone wasn't meant to perform the same role here on earth, we all have our own gift for whatever role we're suppose to play.
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@justreal (2364)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
There are lots of women a out there that don't want children for the reason that they can't and don't want the responsibilities. They want to live their lives nice and chill.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
Thanks to all for your comments! I agree for the most part with all of you. I appreciate you taking the time.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Your very welcome. I hope it helped with your decision :)
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@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
No I don't think you should just have a child for the sake of it because you can.. You or anybody eles shouldn't be treated differently because of that fact either.. Children are hard work and very time consuming some people are happy and content enough with their lives there is no need, each to their own...
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I don't want any children either and I get the same reaction when I tell people. Everyone is different and having a child doesn't make you better then anyone else. I hate having to explain why I don't want kids. I know plenty of people w/o children and they are happy, if not happier, then some with kids. Don't let anyone make you feel bad or wrong for how you want to live your life.
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• United States
11 Feb 07
People with children are like members of a cult and want others to join them. lol
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Bottom line... why should ANYone who doesn't WANT to be a parent, be a parent? Think about the implications for those children... the subtext of unwantedness. I don't see anything wrong with being childless-by-choice. Ever heard of an organization called "No kidding?"
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• United States
11 Feb 07
No, I haven't heard of this organization. What are they about? Tell me more.
@fizz11 (69)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I don't have any biological children, nor have I legally adopted any. I have a friend who at the age of 40 started feeling pressure about being motherless. She does not come from a big family and the family she does have are all located in different States. I think mostly she was feeling lonely and afraid that when she's older, that she'll be alone. The thing is, she is like a mother to everyone I know, including me. She has huge amounts of love that she gives freely. We are each others child and parent and we will stick with each other til the end. I think life is more about the real connections you make and not about how many babies you can make.
• United States
11 Feb 07
a woman should not have to have kids if she doesnt want any its not like the world is going to stop if you dont have kids if you dont want any then dont i didnt want kids either and im still not sure if i do or not and i dont care what anybody thinks about that
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@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
11 Feb 07
It's not weird at all. Not everyone wants children or would be good having children. I wish more people thought about it before they had kids. Some of the bad parents may not have become parents if they thought it through. And that is not to say that just because someone doesn't want children that they would be a bad parent. Sometimes they just have other goals for their lives. And caring for children is a full time job.
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Thanks to cultural and media brainwashing, there are people who truly believe that women's purpose is to have children. They believe a woman cannot truly be a 'real' woman without children, and that a woman without children is living an unfulfilled life. And this makes me sick. I am not a uterus with legs and a head. I am not my reproductive organs. I don't want children, I will never have children. And my life is plenty fulfilling.
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@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
NO, it's not weird. I know many women who don't want children. It's more common to be able to admit it nowadays. It scares me how many women probably had kids they didn't even want in the "olden days" because thats what was expected of them. However, people will still not believe you or think youre "weird" if you don't want kids. Just let their opinions roll off your back.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Some people are just not cut out to be a parent. I think it should be up to a woman whether she wants to have a child or doesn't. There are too many children neglected and abused by parents who didn't want them or weren't ready to be parent. Children need alot of love, time and energy. It also cost a lot to raise a child. So if you don't want a child, don't let people pressure you into having one. You are the one who is responsible, not them.
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@Trish012 (101)
• Puerto Rico
11 Feb 07
my god mother doesn't have children either. I don't think it's weird. Children are not for everyone. You do want you wish, you are probably a better person because you do.