what is a "real" parent?

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As a foster and adoptive parent, I hate it when someone refers to my adoptive children's birth parents as their "real" parents. Almost anyone can give birth. The real test of being a "real" parent is in raising and loving the child. We adopted our foster son almost 3 years ago. 2 years ago we learned that his birth parents had given birth to another child that was taken away from them at birth. We are blessed that we were able to get her and adopt her. What a great gift to be able to give our son the chance to grow up with his full sibling!! We (my husband and I) are the ones who sit up all night when one of the kids are sick. We are the ones who feed them, dress them, entertain them and most importantly love them. I have all the information about their birth parents in a safe place for them when they get older and if they want it. Adoption is a great word at our house. Being a real parent, means actually being a parent, not just giving birth. The love we feel for our two children would not or could not be any different if we had given birth to them ourselves. Our families feel the same way. All our parents, siblings, aunts and uncles see no difference in our children then to the birth children in our families. We are so fortunate to have these twon wonderful children to love. What are your thoughts, comments or questions?