Is this total disrespect for a parent?

I think the mother needs to look at why she thinks that she shouldnt let her 21 year old daughter sleep in the same room as her boyfriend. I mean if it's a new boyfriend ok. but if this is the father of her two children and they have been together a long time, i really dont see the problem. If they have two kids, its not like they will be making out like teenagers in your home, i'm sure they have had enough of that in their own home. I think they probably just enjoy sleeping next to eachother and that is what they are used to. I would let them sleep in the same bed. My mom was the same way when i was younger, but when i brought my boyfriend home for xmas, who is now my hubby, two years ago, we had been together 3 years and she did not have a problem with us sleeping in the same room in her house. What's the worst that could happen ? and why is it such a bad thing to let two people sleep beside one another ?

Sometimes I think it helps to reverse situations to get a prespective. How about if the mother turns up at her daughters house intending to sleep with her boyfriend. It would probably be considered an imposition. But then generally mums arent suppose to do such things.

I think the daughter is being disrespectful of her mothers wishes and beliefs. If she is not going to do as her mother has asked, then she needs to stay elsewhere. It is the mothers home and it is her rules. What makes the daughter think she can do things the way she wants? If it were me, I wouldn't allow it. If the daughter insisted, then I would insist she stay somewhere else, because my house, my beliefs and I don't have to put up with that.

if that is what her mothers beliefs are, then she should definitely respect them. I personally think that being 21 and the fact that they do have kids, that is quite silly that she would do that, but again it is her home.

Its the mothers house. What the mom says goes in her own house and long as she is not abusing anyone , she has a right to say whatever she wants to and to have people abide by her rules. She needs to put her foot down.. Does the boyfriend have another place to stay? If not then maybe they can work out something where he could sleep on the couch or the floor while the unwed mother sleep in her room with the children. If they don't agree to these arrangements then they should find their own place to stay.

when i was dating an ex of mine, we went to stay at his mother's cabin on a lake...i slept in a seperate bedroom than him. it was the right thing, and the respectful thing, to do. if the child respects the mother, she would abide by her wishes as yes, it is the mother's home. to me, it's that simple. if the daughter wants to sleep with her boyfriend that badly, she should pay for a hotel room for them and her 2 kids...that's my take on the whole thing.

I will second who ever said that it was the mothers house and the daughter should abide by her mothers rules! I would like to add this also, the 21 year old has 2 kids of her own, i hope one of them is a girl. How would she cope with the situation if her daughter bought home her boyfriend and insisted with sleeping with him in the same room?? in short she should try to look at this from her mom's perspective! it really helps when you put yourself in the other party's shoes and reconsider the situation.

The mother stands up for her beliefs.The daughter will obey or sleep elsewhere.When you love some one you respect their opinions,especially in their home.

i myself have not been nor put my mom threw this situation but i agree it is totally disrespectful for her to do that. i think the mom should just tell her daughter like it is and if she cant except that then tell her that she cant no longer spend the night till she respects her beliefs. i know that sounds harsh but what other way is she going o get it threw her mothers head.

First of all, the mother has the right to ask for respect from her daughter. If she is living with her mother she has to abide by the rules. If the daughter won't listen than she may as well live separate from her mother and do whatever she wants to do with her life since she is already a grown up person.

I agree with the mother one hundred percent and the daughter if she wants to sleep with her boyfriend should rent a motel room. She should respect her mothers wishes. It doesn't matter if she believes that way or not. Bottom line is it is the mothers house and she needs to respect her mom enough to follow what her moms rules are. My mom feels the same way and when my sister and her boyfriend came in from California they stayed at moms. They slept in separate rooms and beds. You might think that once mom went to sleep they could sneak into each others rooms. But if you knew my mom you would know that is not possible. She is a very very light sleeper.

The mother certainly has the right to set the rules in her own house. A separate issue would be whether the situation "makes sense." Now, you didn't say whether or not (A) the daughter, boyfriend and 2 kids were INVITED or "just dropped by," and (B) whether the boyfriend is the father of the two kids? If "A" and "B" are true, there's a certain inconsistency in the mother's reasoning that may prove problematic, from a purely practical perspective-- what is she doing, inviting (what from her point of view must be) a "sinner" and two (basically) "illegitimate children" to her house? It seems a bit odd to welcome someone in, whose beliefs are clearly in in contradiction with your own, and then impose your belief on them. As if she's "welcoming" and "rejecting" in the same breath. Not really trying to make an argument, just saying it gets into "iffy" territory.

This is a situation her....according to me...mom does not wanrt her daughter to sleeep with some one befor marriage...but the daughter wants to..living in mom's house...in this situation..the daughter should respect her mom as long as she is living with her...

being 21 i believe they should be able to make their own decisions.

the mother should try and make one boyfriend and go to the daughter's apartment or house....how would she react..........hence the solution.......

i think it would be if they sleep in the same room. but if the parents of the girl allows them to stay over, then she might feel its ok.

hey ! there is no logic at all in this situation . u are telling that 21yr un married mother of 2 , means she is already having 2 kids. how come this is possible that a girl of 21 having 2 kids still roaming behind a boyfriend that too going to his own mother's house for sleep. in which country this is happening yaar. in india it is not even heared. any how there seems to be no logi at all in this tuation , and if this is happening then also there is no such wonder and the mother cannot even thing of any ethic or culture . if she thinks or feel , then she should not allow the couples insider the house.

atleast in india no girl would be allowed with her boyfriend, even if this situation occurs , still i believe that children should respect their parents at any cost

As an unmarried mother of two, she's basically already destroyed the hell out of her mothers' morals. The humble act of sleeping--if this is the context we are speaking of--is nothing she hasn't already done. The mother shouldn't be surprised.

If the mother have educated in the right way her daugther,the later have to understand the situation and she doesn't sleep with her boyfriend.She has to respect the mother's beliefs.I'm also a daughter unmarried and when I come back to my parents home I sleep with my boyfriend together,my parents are permissive and they aren't particulary beliefs.But if they should not be so permissive and on the contrary if they were religous I would respected their opinions and I would have slept separated