How do you deal with a child who does not want to be disciplined?
By ajinomoto23
@ajinomoto23 (1057)
Philippines
6 responses
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Are you asking a serious question about your child? A relative's child?
No one wants to be disciplined. That is why people follow rules....to avoid consequences that lead to their being disciplined.
If you are talking about a child who doesn't learn from being disciplined despite the efforts of his parents then that child probably has an emotional disability, will spend their school years in special education and residential treatment centers, and most likely become part of a prison population where ever he lives.
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@ajinomoto23 (1057)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I heard from parents that their children simply play dumb or not affected by discipline. They keep on doing the same mistake again and again. I too have difficulty to put some discipline on my nephews. I take the role of a guardian.
@lvap0628 (731)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Discipline for anybody is hard to swallow, for adults and children alike. For my child, i do the "rewards and punishment technique." it seems to work for both of us as he behaves better and i don't get angry too often. I also offer him choices (between what he wants to do which he shouldn't and what i want him to do) and the consequences for either choice. When i do discipline him, i make sure there's nobody to see or hear as it's harder for the child to accept reprimands when he is being embarrassed in front of other people.
@cherhost (1072)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Consistancy is the key to discipline. I do the same thing everyday with my kid. She does not like it at all and does not want it to happen. But she knows. Her daddy does not follow what I do so it gets her confused. Just hang in there. If the kid is young no it does not mean they will be terrible later in life.
@annesblueeyes (35)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I have a child who was like that. the only thing you can do is reverse the role. Or start taking things away from the child, I tried everything to make my daughter mind, When nothing else worked. I started taking things that mean alot to her away from her. She finaaly come around and now she is a well behaved girl.
@koverman32 (154)
• United States
12 Feb 07
No child WANTS to be disciplined. then it wouldnt even be discipline, as the parent you just need to take charge and tell them what they are going to be able to do and not do and follow through with the consequences! They'll listen and respect you for it later in life
@my_lady (106)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I think the first thing to do is to descipline them when they were small. The guardian should teach them a good manner before the baby learned to speak. We should have long patience to do this. We must teach them all time. Im not a parent yet but I know that my mother do this to me when I was small.