Have you ever considered adopting?

It's expensive as heck, that is a big con. Sad to say, but it's true. Also, if you are wanting an infant, trying to get an infant in the USA is VERY hard to do. The waiting list can be VERY long. Also sometimes, if they know you have an illness, you said Kidney Disease, they use this against you as a reason NOT to let you adopt. Sad, but true. The pros? You get a child to love that might not have parents of it's own, for whatever reason. You also have to deal with the decision to tell them if they were adopted or not. If you tell them, how much do you tell them? Do you want them to be able to find their birth parents if they choose? Would you like for the child to have a relationship with the birth parents as the child is growing up? These are issues that will come up. You could choose to adopt a child from another country. You still have those issues to deal with, however, as well as making sure the child understands why it might look different from you. The child will also need to understand it's culture. It's a hard choice. We went thru infertilty and never thought that we'd have children. We were blessed with two boys, however. The treatments never worked for us. Both boys came after we had given up. We had thought about adoption, but the expense and wait were horrible. Good luck in whatever you decide! Wanting a child and not being able to have one is heartbreaking. I hope things work out for you!!

i feel sorry for your miscarriage, but i think its still early for you to say that you might not be able to have your own kids. just like you, we are also desperate to have our baby... and we are also contemplating on adopting a child. i think adoption would depend on how ready you will be for the situation and what would be your reasons for adoption. whatever your decision will be, i know that in God's time, he will give you an angel.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Its not fun to go through... I had a friend who went through all of that too. There she was in the hospital giving birth to a chald that is not alive and there I was at her house taking care of her others kids, 6 months preggo. But enough about that. Growing up my neighbors could not have any kids. They adopted 2 children, there is a large age difference between the 2. They are great kids. They never hid anything from them. Other kids said something about it to the oldest one, making fun of him and stuff. But his come back was your parents were stuck with you, mine got to pick me. But needless to say nothing can replace the love for a child. I dont see very many cons in this at all. You will be taking a kid whos parent does not want them. I think it is one of the best things a human can do. Good luck with it all. Hope everyhitng works out for the best.

i've always wanted to adopt, ever sicne i was little. i'm still planning on looking into it but when my daughter gets a little older and when we get a bigger place and more money. i've always wanted to adopt an older child who doesn't have as much chance of being adopted before they get pushed out of the system.

considering adoption is not that bad i think its just ok to adopt but if you think that its too early for you to adopt then dont do it yet.I believe that if its really for you,you dont have to look for one god will look one for you.Just wait and see whats gods plan for you.Remember sara in the bible she had her baby when she was old already because to god nothing is impossible.

i am just curious what kidney condition you have. i have a 4 yr old boy from a previous relationship. i have now been married for almost two yrs, and we have been trying to concieve. we have had one miscarriage last april. and no luck since then. so i was just curious as to see if we have the same condition, and maybe this condition is causing some infertility issues???? let me know

First of all, don't give up on having a baby. You have 1 miscarriage, but a miscarriage may mean that the baby was not viable to begin with. The fact that you did become pregnant means that you have a big chance of getting pregnant again. Adopting is a good option, however, whether or not you eventually have children of your own or not. I think the biggest pro is that a child who was deprived of his parents by whatever reason will finally have someone to love and take care of him. Cons - hmm...I guess the biggest con is biological, meaning biologicall, he's not your child. But if this is not an issue with you, I'd think that adoption would be a good option for you.