Grieving a loved one
By fortyzwife
@fortyzwife (84)
United States
February 11, 2007 11:43pm CST
Today is the 6 year anniversary of my best friends death. Reece was shot to death in front of me 6 years ago. I watched him die. And every year it gets harder and harder to deal with it. I have his name tatted on my arm, i gave my first born his name, and yet i still feel like a piece of me is missing. And throughout the year, i think of him all the time, but 2/11 is always the hardest. I have been crying all day, and i just cant get over it. Someone please tell me how i deal with it? Ive written poems, i tried to talk about it. But nothing is making me feel better.
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@anjoks (2080)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
Honestly, it's so easy giving advices for people like you in times like these. . but puttin myself on someone else's shoes, i always have these kind of thinking you know that "it's sooo easy for people to say that, give advices because they are not the one experiencing it". Am i right about that? .. i just hope and wish that someday, you'll soon find that "acceptance" in your heart. Be strong. You are not alone in this battle. Godbless. (",)
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@sourgrapes77 (95)
• Philippines
12 Feb 07
I guess the best you can is not to grieve but to be happy for him because he served his lifetime though its a tragic thing to remember him of but eventually, from where he is now, he is more at peace. Be happy because not everyone new him and you were his bestfriend and you were there to experience the good and bad times with him. We should always learn to let go and I'm sure if he'd see you lonely he wouldn't be happy too right?? And pray, always pray that God would take away your sadness and burden. He always listens. God Bless.
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@fortyzwife (84)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I thought i did let go, but obviously i havent. I dont know how to let go..
@lilbitgreen (167)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I'll start by saying that I am sorry for your lose. I think the fact that you watched it happen makes it harder to get past this stage of grief. I would suggest that you try and talk to a therapist specializing in grief counseling, you may be bottling things up that you are unaware of or not letting go even though you feel you have. But never forget that it's okay to cry and to talk about.
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@fortyzwife (84)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Thank you. I think thats a good idea, there probably are parts that i am bottling up that im unaware of. It just hurts so much to talk about him...
