could you forgive an affair?

All i can say about this is 'Fool me once,shame on U.Fool Me twice,shame on me.'

Depends on the situation, If my spouse is really feeling sorry then I must help her out rather than battle against her. And if is desperate to do so then she would have leave me forever and I won't even like to see her face thereafter. I know that it would be very difficult for me to live without her but I won't even let her know this by any means possible.

Yes, I think it can happen! ooopps but are you talking about an extra-marital affair of your partner of yours? Because there is a big difference. I suppose that you can forget (specially a one night stand) but not if is your partner affair!

I honestly think it depends upon a lot of circumstances. How strong is your relationship before finding out? What caused the affair? Who was it with? How long did it last? What reasons did the "cheater" give for going astray? Are you truly in love still or just remaining together for convenience? I think there's a lot of different things depending upon it. I do think that for the most part, if the relationship is strong but lacking in something that perhaps the other person has been looking for then it can be dealt with. I'm not sure it's ever truly "forgiven" but perhaps accepted.

If there was not kids I would probly walk away but don't know. Now since I have 3 kids with my hubby if I found out that he was cheating on me then I would say i would try for the kids and us. But it would also proble depend on the sercomstances of the cheat. Who it was with, did they know each other, was it a one night stand, where did they mean, was it an ex gf what was the reason, so many thinks to ask and think about. I would say there would be a time period that we would be seperated and then go from there on what needs to be done or tired

It depends on the situation. These things are often complicated and sometimes there are many things to consider. I would forgive an affair - depending on what led to it -. However this doesn't mean that i would ever think it is right to have an affair if you are in a long term relationship,( no matter what the reasons there are many other ways to solve them or even separate before get into that situation ) it means only that I could forgive it.

no. never. Me and my partner we try to talk as much as possible, we analize all the aspects of our relationship to solve the problems: if we don't like no more each other is much better to end the relationship than to have an extra-marital affsir

No, I could not forgive or forget that. I moved to another country, left behind my family and friends, good job, car my country, for marriage. I love my hubby. I have sacrificed a lot to follow my heart. I have no regrets. If he were to have an affair, we would be through. All I would ask from him is enough money to send me back home with all my stuff. Marriage is built on trust and love. Without trust, there can be no marriage. If the person if forgiven and taken back into the fold, the next time they are late coming home from work, you will wonder where they really were. Do you trust them enough to believe they really were working or do you think they are playing around again. Once trust is lost, there is no going back. I know in my heart, that I could never have an affair. There is no reason to as I love my hubby.

Affair with emotional attatchment I probably wouldn't forgive, even if I did, it'd be because of my ego, thinking I'm not good enough for him, competition etc. He was probably unhappy with me in the first place so thats why he cheated on me, so no point in taking him back and all, theres no more love

i could forgive,but i wouldn`t because there is noting guaranteeing that she won`t do it again,most of the people who do it don`t stop at just one affair

Well that is actually a very good question nad to be very honest I am not sure I could forget. What I mean is I think I could FORGIVE but not FORGET and that would be my problem. It would probably torture my mind all the time. If he kisses me I would propably suddenly catch myself thinking he did that to someone else, and so on ... It would completly ruin my self-confidence as well as my trust in him ... Based on that, well maybe I would try ... actually i would probably try since we have a child together, but I don't know if I could ever overcome this and trust him again ... but if I do I know it will take years I do hope it never happens though .... What about you ? Could you ?

I believe once a cheater, always a cheater. If someone strays they had reason for it. If a relationship is a really good one I think that straying would never have happened. I dont think I could ever look at the person in the same way. I would always have in the back of my mind what that person did.

Wow you know what....I honestly dont know. It would depend on a numerous amount of circumstances thats for sure. I would like to say that I could forgive, but i know i couldnt forget and that would be a problem. I suppose the question for me is, would they want to be with me after having an affair because it will be damn hard work getting me to forgive and be happy and trusting again I know that much, and the making up for it may be too hard to handle for them ;). Heres hoping I never have to find out.

I could never forgive that person. It's as though our entire marriage was just a lie and a cover-up. My title as a husband and a man has been disgraced specially if I never did anything wrong to provoke my wife to have another affair.

The answer to this one is a simple, NO. This is why. When two people are in a relationship and one of them has an affair, it is the ultimate betrayal of emotions and trust. When someone cheats, they not only cheat, but then they lie about it. The conversation may not come up were, they have to admit or deny the affair. But when they were actually cheating they have to lie about where they are at or what they are doing. The words may not be spoken (I was at work all day catching up on paper work. or what ever), but it is implied. I will trust anyone till I am given a reason not to. And if it was the person that I am in a relationship with that broke my trust, I could never trust them again. If you are in a relationship, you should be able to trust that person with your life. Could you trust a person that much if he or she doesn't have enough control over their actions not to cheat? If you answer no, then you understand my point. If you answer yes, then either you are a better person then I, or a person of low self esteem.

i think i could forgive that kind of affair because if i see that my partner is really sorry then i suppose he wont do it again but if he said sorry but still doesnt have time for me then that would definitely result to a break up..

That is a very difficult question. Ideally for my very own relationship I would not forgive my partner if he will do something which is outside of our relationship. But they say that it is not that easy especially if he asks your forgiveness and promise not to do it again. When you are into that situation that's the time when I can say what will I do to him.

No I couldn't. I know that for a fact. The reason is that I already had been cheated on in the past by my ex fiance. I TRIED (really really really hard) to forgive him, we even went for counselling together but I never could. I never trusted him again. He'd be late getting home from work and I'd go through his pockets when he fell asleep. I lost self esteem over it and it wasn't worth it. I was also obsessed with the woman he cheated on me with and I could never get around the fact that she must have been "better" then me in some way. However, the day I finally broke up with him, all those insecurities went out the window and it felt like a weight had been lifted off my chest. So no matter what, if my husband was stupid enough to cheat, he won't be my husband anymore.

I forgave several affairs my wife had. Or at least I tried to. The problem was that she kept on having them and even at one point had an ongoing (supposedly nonsexual) relationship with this one guy in which she constantly was around and continually cancelled plans with me to be with him. So I never could fully forgive her. I think it is possible to move past an affair, but both parties have to be willing to put in the effort.

Yes I think I could, my husband means the world to me and so if he made a mistake I THINK I could forgive him! As long as it wasn't a long on-going thing, or an emotional thing. We all make mistakes and I would try to gorgive him!