WOuld you stay friends with a person if they suddenly turned against you?
By raghavrao89
@raghavrao89 (189)
India
February 12, 2007 8:16am CST
Today.. in class.... when a girl told me a spoiler for the next 'Harry Potter' book.. I was upset and asked her/rather told her never to do it again as the previous two books had been spoilt for me in the same manner. Sh instead turned to me and said, "I'm never going to speak to you again in that case." I'm not a spiteful person by nature.. and she's a good friend.. but if people feel like openly declaring enemity to me.. I find it in my nature to reciprocate. What would you do in such a situation? Have you ever been in a similar situation? What did you do then.. am I thinking right or should I try to make it up to her... patch things up between the two of us?
4 responses
@Josette_J (805)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 07
It's just a small matter. It's not like she betrayed you or something. I think you should patch things up with her and see if she's willing to speak to you again. There's no reason to stop being friends just because she spoilt your Harry Potter 'surprise' or whatever.
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@raghavrao89 (189)
• India
12 Feb 07
Yeah... I know it's not worth losing a friendship over... but I didn't say I'd stop talking to her or anything.. I guess I had a kind of 'mild' outburst and told her not to repeat it.. and she said she wouldn't talk to me in future. Now I ask you... is that fair?
@davaoguy (319)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Friends can sometimes disagree on some things. But it should not be the cause you will not be friends anymore. You should learn to respect each other's opinions and you have to understand her. You just emphasize that you did not like her actions and if she's a real good friend, she should not do that again.
@raghavrao89 (189)
• India
12 Feb 07
Yeah.. but it was that very thing that offended her.. my telling her that her actions had hurt me.. and now she wont even talk to me.. pls help me out here :(
@joey_matthews (8354)
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12 Feb 07
In school i did.
There's a difference between a friend showing off and a selfish person trying to use you to get somewhere they can't and they normally drag you down. So i don't think you should and i would say no for myself.
I have been there. My friends at school used to call me all the times and they didn't like the fact that normally it ended up with me losing my temper and punching them. Stupidly i know but they really got to me and there not friends.
Asoon as schools over they'll probably ditch you unless they grow up. which my friends mostly haven't done. (i don't know why i said friends)
Kudos!
~Joey
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Not really worth losing a friendship over. I think both of you have overreacted and if your willing to make an effort to patch it up with her, then I think you should. If she doesn't reciprocate, then maybe you need to find another friend.
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