Help! I think my childhood friend is flirting with my husband..What should i do?
By hh9905
@hh9905 (1275)
Malaysia
February 12, 2007 9:00am CST
They first met during our last school reunion. At first i didn't notice but one my friends highlighted to me. I was glad to see that my husband was trying his best to avoid her all night.
Now, she keeps dropping by at my house. If my husband wasn't around, she just said that she was passing by and wanted to say hello. Else, she'll stay at my house for hours.
What should i do?
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6 responses
@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I would definitely sit down with her and tell her that you don't appreciate her behavior!!! It's totally uncalled for as well as you have a respectful husband who has no interest in anyone but yourself!!! She definitely needs to be told that she can't act this way if she is going to continue to be your friend!!! Real friends don't treat each other this way!!!
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@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Are you afraid that she will take it the wrong way and get really angry with you?? Sometimes it can be hard to gain the courage for such a difficult conversation. But if it really bothers you then you should find a way to be able to talk to her about this so that it won't affect how you feel - it's never fun to feel this way especially when you are supposed to be friends.
I hope you can find the courage to talk to her and that she can be kind enough to listen to what you have to say and understand how you feel regarding this situation.
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@limcyjain (3516)
• India
12 Feb 07
I would suggest you should not delay on this issue and let her know that her behaviour is quite odd and you and your husband are not comfortable with it. This should send her the right message
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@nfhs79 (861)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
OO my God! That girl have no shy. Shame, shame.
I think if that girl start a certain move like asking both of you out, asking ur husband out, she ask for your hp I mean husband phone num, etc, face to face this girl. Hmm. But, this type of girl who doesn't give up, its not good. I assume she just playing around to test both of you. Maybe. Be calm if she came, just act normal. I hope that girl should realize that he is your husband. Tell her like " my husband is not at home", the word "my husband" should be always be spoken out. Hmm. Better watch out. Girls nowadays are totally cruel to get 'something'. Esp other woman husband.
@doodlebug5250603 (1993)
• United States
16 Feb 07
If i was in your place i would talk to your husband first. Let him know how you feel about your friend's behavior. Let him know that you will be having a talk with her and letting her know how you feel.
Then i would call your friend and meet somewhere (not at your house). Then tell your friend that you don't like the way she acts around your husband, and you feel that it's uncalled for and disrespectful towards you. Also explain to your friend that if she can't act right around your husband and have enough respect for you then there's no reason that you two should be friends anymore. And that she needed to make the choice.
Good luck
@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
13 Feb 07
That's really strange, she's getting closer and closer to your home. You have a reason to worry. If I were in your shoes, i would confront her because it's my husband involved. She could be a home-wrecker and it might be too late if I didn't act on it. My advice is to speak to her about what's going on because you have the right to know, and it's best to put the matters to rest.
@cherrysant (199)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 07
tell your husband to don't tease her, because she is your friend. and you should tell your husband to kept his space with your friend
