Are you a worrier ??
By weemam
@weemam (13372)
February 12, 2007 9:21am CST
I am a real worrier , I worry myself sick about things . My family get so annoyed at me but I just can't help it , If I have a problem and I can't solve it I am like a dog with a bone I just have it at the back of my mind and it niggles at me all the time , I thought my daughter in law had given me her copy of her wedding video taken 22 years ago so I could transfer it to DVD for her , I couldn't find it and I was really upset about it , I love her like a daughter and when I phoned to explain she said not to worry as It didn't matter , I felt even worse because she was so nice about it , My granddaughter was in visiting with her boyfriend last night and when I mentioned it to her , she said it was in the cupboard i her room , I felt so relieved I could have danced , She didn't see the problem and just said " nanny you worry too much " would you have Been the same under the circumstances ?
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@defeated (141)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I USED to be a worrier - ended up with a bleeding ulcer at 19! Maybe it's came with age - but I learned a looong time ago to NOT sweat the little things. I know people who literally worry themselves sick about stuff - which is just nuts. You get yourself all worked up worrying about something - and what does it accomplish? Not a whole lot that I've ever seen.
Not saying I don't worry about things occasionally...I just choose my battles wisely so to speak. Guess when it comes to worrying....I alway remember this simple phrase I came across years ago:
TODAY IS THE TOMORROW YOU WORRIED ABOUT YESTERDAY....you worried about it but it still came just the same lol.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 07
We are both the same my friend, I constantly worry, I take after my mum in that respect, she too is a great worrier, although she has eased up a bit. I always look at worrying in this way, which is a great help to me.
Sit down and spend twenty minutes worrying about the problem you face, or problems in the plural, ok sitting comforably? Right, twenty minutes have gone by and you've spent that time worrying!
Ok, what have you achieved?
NOTHING
You've just wasted twenty minutes worrying but nothing has changed! The status quo is still the same, the same problems are still there!
My aunt had a saying which is very very true
If you've got a problem, do something about it, if not bu**er it!
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
12 Feb 07
Not really. I do what I can to make the situation better if it turnout OK if not I just move on. Otherwise I would drive myself crazy because I have the affliction of being a perfectionist. You have to know when to give in and let go.
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
12 Feb 07
Yes I would say I am a real worrier, I do not worry as much as I used to though. Yes it is very hard to stop worry about something that is on your mind and you can't solve it quickly. Yes and some times when we loose something it does worry us especially when the other person is so nice about it but you know something Weemam that when we lose something don't worry about it as we normally find it when we are looking for something else and that is what we found out when we had to move quite a bit, so I hope this helps with your worries. Yes I would of felt exactly like you did though.
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
12 Feb 07
i have this same problem, i worry too much. i even drive myself crazy. if i'm worried about something tht's all i can think about and i can't consentrate or talk about anything else so i really annoy the other people around me.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 07
Yes I am a worrier always have been and always will be. I have made myself Ill lots of time because of worrying. Last year I made myself that Sick I lost a lot of weight to this Day I have not put it back on. But it was a Combination of my Illness and worrying.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
i do worry at times, i think of possible circumstances but i dont think much of it to a point that it interferes my daily life and make me not work as i should be working.
there are things we need to worry about, but it won't get us anywhere but will only make our minds suffer so i do think of it... but think of what i can do to end the worry.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I worry way too much and it's always about 'silly' things. However, to me they are important. My mind grasps certain concepts and they stick with me. I'm always worried about what's going to happen next, and if I really did lock the door. That type of thing. It's really a pain.
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@ShadyGrove (996)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I used to worry about any ole thing. For a while a few years ago I was under great stress and worried so much I worked myself into a panic attack!
I had to take medication for a few years for panic attacks, but I finally got myself off of it. Now if I start to worry and start to panic I have been able to calm myself down and work my way out of the worry/panic mode.
Worrying really accomplishes nothing and even stalls you from getting done what you need to do about the problem or situation - that's what I tell myself anyway! lol Take that energy you spend on worry and put it to a positive use until you no longer have to worry about a problem.
Good luck!
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@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
12 Feb 07
I would have been very worried had I thought that I had misplaced something that would be irreplaceable. I worry to much and this has caused me to have anxiety atttacks. I don't know why some people worry to much and yet others seem to have no worries at all, but I wish that I could be in the middle, not to much, and not at all, just right.
I'm glad that it was found. Good luck here at mylot!
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@romeosmarty (1)
• India
13 Feb 07
If you can't sleep,then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying.It's the worry that gets you,not the lack of sleep.
@endeya (5)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I am a worrier too... that worry usually turns to panic and anxiety. Usually it's about something I forgot to do or something I left somewhere.
What keeps me grounded is my guy. He never worries about anything, you'd think he didn't care. A very simple example is when we're already late for an engagement... I'd panic and run around the house but he'd even find time to watch TV.
I guess you could find comfort in the people around you... if your friend was nice about it, try to relax. I'm sure this has happened to you--- you worried so much but everything turned out OK anyway... you then think how silly you were to panic.
@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Yep I am a worrier and it drives my hubby crazy. He doesn't understand why I worry as it (in his words) doesn't solve anything.
He on the other hand never seems to worry and that drives me nuts!
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@Fishish (696)
• India
13 Feb 07
u are so similar to so many people i see around myself. in fact till a few years back, even i used to worry a lot about the slightest things but i realised that it gets u nowhere. God always has plans for u. no matter how hard u try u can not alter His plans.so why even bother...just chill and wait for things to fall into place...also i strongly believe in positive vibrations. next time something goes wrong just relax and repeat to yourself that everything will be alright. positive vibrations of the thought will make things right...try it, maybe it works!
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I am a constant worrier. I worry about everything, people tell me that it is no way to live life, but I think it keeps you on your toes and are constantly aware of what is going on and I dont think it is that bad to worry, but that is my opinion.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
13 Feb 07
Last week only me and my hubby had this discussion that I always overplay everything. It was that my seven month old daughter had ferver in the evening about 99.5 degrees so I wanted to take her to the doctor. Hwe said I can give her paracetamol for the fever, but i wanted to show her to the doctor anyway. On way there I asked him why he has to be so casual about anything, I would prefer a doctor telling me that because niether he nor me holds a degree in medicine and she is too small to experiment with. He says I overplay everything and needlessly worry so he underplays everything. Who is right here can you tell me? What is wrong in consulting a doctor if you feel kid so small is not feeling okay?
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am a worrier by nature & always have been. I think it stemed from being the oldest of 4 kids. I still to this day worry about my siblings. I would have worried & been upset in your shoes too.
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@Giggles88 (542)
• United States
13 Feb 07
This sounds so famiuar. Me and my mom have the same problem. I worry about every little thing. It's like I can't help it. I wish there was a solution. My doctor tried to tell me it was some weird anxeity disorder but doesn't that sound a little rediculous to you. I guess it could be true though. I run to the doctors at the drop of the hat. I'm so scared of everything and i'm only 18. Abyone got any ideas of how to stop this nonsense.
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@jackgreen (82)
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13 Feb 07
i think that your granduaghter is right that you worry too much i can understand that losing a wedding video is worrying because its a sentimental item to whoever gets married but if you worry about other stuff that is small and not as important it is not healthy in my opinion try not to worry and just forget anything that isnt important
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
18 Mar 08
I used to be an awful worrier - and I have really worked hard at becoming less of a worrier - but still find myself often having to talk my self out of worry. It started when a friend of mine said it is a waste to pre-worry. you are worrying about things that may or may not happen.... her words struck a chord with me.
Regret looks back
Worry looks around
Faith looks up.
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