BACKSTABBERS: Revenge or Forgiveness??

I don't forget such things easily. I do bear a grudge and it takes a while to get rid of it. I don't usually confront people because I don't want issues to be blown out of proportion. I'm a very loyal friend and when a back stabber comes along, they get the bitter side of me. I ignore them, and no longer consider them a friend. I am picky about friends so I don't tolerate mean ones!

A year ago I would have posted that revenge is yours and that you should do what you can to get it and make sure you don't get caught. Now is different, though, and I'll tell you why. Revenge not only takes its toll on them, it takes a bigger one on you. Yes, the release is great in knowing that you had the last laugh, but what have you really gained and more importantly, what have you perpetuated in your own life? The person who did this to me is the one who is really worrying about it these days. I don't have to live with the guilt of what was done to me by them, and I don't have to worry about what I did in return because I learned a long time ago that there is no revenge like living well and being loved and not worrying about centering my emotions or my energies toward people who do not warrant ANY of my attention, whether it is good attention or bad attention. They deserve none of my energy. And neither do the people who wronged you deserve any more of yours. You should take all that energy and do something fabulous with your time, life and efforts. Remember that every little thing you do in life has potential to either be really great for you, or really not. It's all in how you handle the moment at hand. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Revenge, although sometimes sweet, is never the answer. Usually it turns out the best revenge is just leaving them alone; sooner or later their behavior will get the best of them, and they will be sorry for their actions. The things to remember are how important a thing like trust is in a relationship, and, to be aware that your best friend can be your worst enemy. I would walk away from a backstabber. That seems to hurt them the most. It is true that what goes around comes around, and sooner or later, they do themselves in. So me, I wouldn't waste my precious energy on a backstabber. I let them do all the work. Forgivness is the right thing to do, but don't ever forget what happened, and make sure it cant happen again. You never know what will motivate a backstabber. So just be aware.

nothing is more hurting to a backstabber when he is forgiven for what he has done and try loving him more. he will feel so guilty that he will taste defeat inspite of stabbing you back